From Being Extremely shy to Speaking to Thousands: Kirsty Carden on Overcoming Fear and Building Confidence

Yeah, so I suppose I think everything starts with knowing what you want, right? So for me, when I decided I was going to start a business, I had to overcome my fear of disability, right? So putting yourself in a situation that forces you to actually have to overcome it, right? It's not just something in your head.

It's like I had to do it.

So it was stages.

And this is something I teach my clients.

It's like tiny little bits.

So the first thing was like putting a video up online, right? Going live online, going live on someone's Facebook group or something.

Speaking, like being one speaker at a smaller event and then a bigger event and then my own event.

So it's like these tiny little things.

It's like.

leveling up you know it's like these teeny little things it's like building a muscle just like when you go to the gym you don't go from like having no muscles to just being you know what i mean like a wrestler like that doesn't happen it's these incremental things and i think that's the same for everything everything in business right so it was the same thing to the point now i don't have any fear i don't have those nerves that i would never have thought would be in the case right so um i can actually step on stage in front of a And I can be excited and stuff, but not nervous.

So tiny little incremental things done over a period of time, which builds up that muscle.

Yeah, which kind of got rid of that fear.

I heard a great quote the other day.

I think it was Steve Jobs.

And I was listening to it.

I think it was a podcast.

And it said... that when you're building a massive legacy or one that you feel that you really want to leave behind or make an impact, it's like building a mountain but only building it with layers of paint.

Yeah.

Imagine

it's like a fraction, not even a millimetre each time.

So I think that's probably similar to your journey in a sense.

I could say a Facebook group and then just even exposing one video and then two and so on.

Just marginal gains.

But fast forward now, all of a sudden in front of a thousand people.

Exactly.