TBF: It Takes Two To Toxic: Why Codependent & Unhealthy Relationships Indicate A Disconnection From Our Divine Feminine Power

I also want to get into the idea of why are we drawn towards these toxic situations? What is the allure? What's going on with us? And there's two points that I wanted to make.

One is that when we are finding ourselves again and again in a unfulfilling relationships that don't feel healthy, that don't bring us to a state of peace, that don't feel like they can really You run the course, right? Go the distance.

They're not going to be our long-term partnership.

I mean, even though you can be stuck in an unhealthy situation for years and years and years, even in marriages, we all know marriages end that we're completely unhealthy and abusive and all the things.

If we find ourselves drawn to these unhealthy ones, what is going on? What is it that's drawing us to it? So the idea I want to offer is, is the difference, the shift we make when we begin to engage in healthy relationships is that we've made the decision that we want to be in a state, engage with things where we are actually being satiated rather than constantly chasing after and craving more.

This ties into the idea of love addiction.

How can love be an addiction? This is why.

You're constantly chasing and craving more, more, more because you're not being satiated.

Any toxic relationship is not nourishing you.

It's like...

You know, eating a bunch of crappy food with no nutrition in it.

Yeah, you're taking a lot in.

Something's going on, right? You're in relation with someone.

You're spending time with them.

You're intimate with them.

You're taking things in, but they are not satiating your system.

It is toxic.

It's not good for you.

So you're doing all this stuff, but it isn't satiating you.

And the secret is that you don't actually want to be satiated.

You're addicted to that chase, to the craving of more, more, more.

I need more.

And this is the bigger problem is that it's just like any other addiction.

You think it's going to resolve something that cannot be resolved by anything that is not healthy or good or aligned with you, right? Alcohol is never going to solve any of our problems.

Maybe we feel like it does temporarily.

I also want to get into the idea of why are we drawn towards these toxic situations? What is the allure? What's going on with us? And there's two points that I wanted to make.

One is that when we are finding ourselves again and again in a unfulfilling relationships that don't feel healthy, that don't bring us to a state of peace, that don't feel like they can really You run the course, right? Go the distance.

They're not going to be our long-term partnership.

I mean, even though you can be stuck in an unhealthy situation for years and years and years, even in marriages, we all know marriages end that we're completely unhealthy and abusive and all the things.

If we find ourselves drawn to these unhealthy ones, what is going on? What is it that's drawing us to it? So the idea I want to offer is, is the difference, the shift we make when we begin to engage in healthy relationships is that we've made the decision that we want to be in a state, engage with things where we are actually being satiated rather than constantly chasing after and craving more.

This ties into the idea of love addiction.

How can love be an addiction? This is why.

You're constantly chasing and craving more, more, more because you're not being satiated.

Any toxic relationship is not nourishing you.

It's like...

You know, eating a bunch of crappy food with no nutrition in it.

Yeah, you're taking a lot in.

Something's going on, right? You're in relation with someone.

You're spending time with them.

You're intimate with them.

You're taking things in, but they are not satiating your system.

It is toxic.

It's not good for you.

So you're doing all this stuff, but it isn't satiating you.

And the secret is that you don't actually want to be satiated.

You're addicted to that chase, to the craving of more, more, more.

I need more.

And this is the bigger problem is that it's just like any other addiction.

You think it's going to resolve something that cannot be resolved by anything that is not healthy or good or aligned with you, right? Alcohol is never going to solve any of our problems.

Maybe we feel like it does temporarily.