S1 Ep 12 Decision Making

I'm not talking about someone forcing you to make a decision.

That's not what we're talking about.

But what about something more sneaky? Like when you're in a room with a lot of people around you, you might feel different.

You might have your mother's opinion.

You might have your partner's expectations going on.

The boss is sitting at the table.

Your fear about money is pulled up in a chair.

Your inner good girl is taking notes, right? All of these things can happen in the room and you're just left with, um, what do I do with this? Scarcity.

Scarcity is shouting at you from the corner and the people pleaser keeps trying to make sure everybody's happy.

Somewhere, almost hidden behind all of those influences, is your own wisdom, what you actually know to be true, if you get out of your own way and listen long enough.

Because if you stop and actually ask yourself, what do I think? Not what I think even, it's what do I feel? Because, yeah, it's about how you feel.

Your body tells you.

when you're making a good decision and when you're not.

But it's not in your head, right? Your head is full of other people's opinions, full of things that make sense, but you can build a beautiful path that's very logical and it'll take you to a swamp, not a beach.

It's still logical.

It still makes sense.

It didn't take you where you wanted to go.

So this is something I see so often.

I go as far as to say I come across it all the time.

Someone tells me that they're having a hard time making a decision.

And within about five minutes, they have listed off what their husband thinks, their best friend thinks, their other coach thinks, what their accountant said, what the internet is saying.

And somewhere in the middle of all of that, they got lost.

They completely forgot.

to check in with themselves.

I find it fascinating.