Onyi O.

What happens when you realize you don’t need a man or a marriage to become a mother? For actor and producer Onyi Okoli, that realization was an epiphany. One that made her soul rejoice. In this episode of *Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K.*, Onyi joins me for a candid conversation about her journey to becoming a Single Mom By Choice (SMBC) and what it means to build a family on your own terms. Onyi shares what first opened her eyes to the possibility of solo motherhood, how she navigated egg freezing and IVF, and the surprisingly funny and deeply personal process of choosing a donor. We also explore identity, representation, dating, and family planning, including how Onyi approached donor selection and why physical attraction was one of her priorities. This conversation is about giving yourself permission to imagine a different future — and realizing you don’t have to put your dreams on hold while waiting for someone else. And if you’re considering becoming a Single Mom By Choice yourself, Onyi leaves us with practical encouragement: trust your timing, do your research, and plan for the life you want. Whether you’re already a Single Mom By Choice, considering solo motherhood, somewhere in the middle of your journey, or simply curious about the possibilities, this episode is a reminder that there is more than one way to build a family. 🎙️ **Listen to Episode 2: Onyi Okoli’s Journey to Solo Motherhood** 🗳️ **Help Baby Kairolu Become Baby of the Year!** Onyi’s daughter, **Baby Kairolu, is competing for Baby of the Year**, and your vote could help her get closer to the title! The winner could receive $25,000 and a feature in Variety. Show Kairolu some love and cast your vote here: 👉 https://babyoftheyear.org/vote/verify/2026/ka-r-lu-3d2b Every vote counts! 🤍 **Connect with Onyi** Instagram: @OnyiOkoli **Connect with Alexandra** Instagram: @LifeWithAlexandraK Podcast Instagram: @WhosTheDaddyPod **Who’s the Daddy w/ Alexandra K.** The podcast where we discuss all things Single Mom By Choice. And as always, keep discovering and choosing the life that’s best for you. 🤍