Where Work Meets Life™ with Dr. Laura
Aug 25, 2026 · 23 min · 10 segments
In this solo episode, Dr. Laura explores one of the eight toxic boss personas featured in her book, *I Wish I'd Quit Sooner*: the control freak. She explains the important difference between a…
Laura Hambley LovettHostThere are too many bosses out there who are control freaks, and as I did my research for I Wish I'd Quit Sooner, which is my book that released in January on how to navigate and escape a toxic boss, I, I found that one of the personas or the styles that these toxic bosses use is to control.
And I wanna say first of all that there's a difference between a difficult boss versus a toxic boss, and I wanna say a lot of difficult bosses do have micromanagerial tendencies.
When you are first put into a leadership role, oftentimes you are afraid to let go of the work that you actually did because you want it done right, and it's hard.
It's hard to trust someone else will do the same job and quality that you do.
And with my coaching clients, I sometimes hear leaders say that it takes more time to explain it to someone than just doing it myself.
They're not growing, and it will ultimately free up time if you empower and trust others to get the work done." Yes, they may make mistakes.
But if you become very good at giving feedback, helping them grow, they will become better and better over time, and it'll free up your time.
A toxic boss, on the other hand, their micromanagement is to the extreme.
I often say the control freak, which I name the persona so you would remember it, the control freak is micromanagement on steroids.
In fact, they think that you will take advantage of time, that you are lazy, that you won't work hard, that you won't do a good job.
They will keep a close eye on, on everything, and they're perfectionists, so the feedback they give you will be very detail-oriented, little nitpicky things.
And you'll think, "Really? Will that specific punctuation really make a difference in this overall presentation," or, "Will the one extra comma on this report matter?" But they wanna put their stamp on everything.
I want you to become better at whatever skill set is in your job." It's that they want to make sure that they have had their stamp, their claws on everything.
There are too many bosses out there who are control freaks, and as I did my research for I Wish I'd Quit Sooner, which is my book that released in January on how to navigate and escape a toxic boss, I, I found that one of the personas or the styles that these toxic bosses use is to control.
And I wanna say first of all that there's a difference between a difficult boss versus a toxic boss, and I wanna say a lot of difficult bosses do have micromanagerial tendencies.
When you are first put into a leadership role, oftentimes you are afraid to let go of the work that you actually did because you want it done right, and it's hard.
It's hard to trust someone else will do the same job and quality that you do.
And with my coaching clients, I sometimes hear leaders say that it takes more time to explain it to someone than just doing it myself.
They're not growing, and it will ultimately free up time if you empower and trust others to get the work done." Yes, they may make mistakes.
But if you become very good at giving feedback, helping them grow, they will become better and better over time, and it'll free up your time.
A toxic boss, on the other hand, their micromanagement is to the extreme.
I often say the control freak, which I name the persona so you would remember it, the control freak is micromanagement on steroids.
In fact, they think that you will take advantage of time, that you are lazy, that you won't work hard, that you won't do a good job.
They will keep a close eye on, on everything, and they're perfectionists, so the feedback they give you will be very detail-oriented, little nitpicky things.
And you'll think, "Really? Will that specific punctuation really make a difference in this overall presentation," or, "Will the one extra comma on this report matter?" But they wanna put their stamp on everything.
I want you to become better at whatever skill set is in your job." It's that they want to make sure that they have had their stamp, their claws on everything.
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