Ep. 31 The Difference Between Grief and Suffering

Within a very short period of time, a lot of things in my life are changing.

And that has meant a lot of loss.

And I can't help but see the relationship to how we relate to our bodies as well.

Something that I heard Lee Harris say, he's an energy intuitive person.

He was talking about how grief is really the way that we recycle energy in our body.

And that felt really true to me.

As I've been going through this grieving process, a lot of big emotion has been coming up through me.

Waterfalls of tears, just uncontrollable waves of emotion.

And I can see that being a very natural letting go process.

the way that my body is starting to detach from what has been to be able to bring that energy back into and available for what is to come and what will be.

And when I saw it that way, I thought this makes so much sense.

When we are trying to control and manage our bodies, we override the natural signals of our bodies.

We don't usually allow the natural processing to happen because we've learned we need to shut those signals off.

We need to override what our body naturally wants to do or needs to in favor of what our mind says how it should be.

So it really brought me through to the connection of how important making peace with your body is and moving out of the dieting and control mentality because it really opens us up to become more embodied and fully immersed in our life and in harmony and connection with that deeper wisdom that's within us.

It knows what to do.

And when we see that that's what's happening and we allow the process to happen, it just moves through more easily.

And it usually shows up as crying, you know, emotion moving process change.

And that can feel intense.

I mean, sadness feels sad.

That's its nature.

We can't expect sadness to feel happy.

But sadness in and of itself isn't suffering.

We can feel sadness and not suffer through it.

What I became acutely aware of during these intense episodes of grief is that the suffering I was experiencing in those moments was 100% about what the mind was making it mean and the stories that my mind was telling me.