7 Quiet Ways I Know I’m Becoming a Different Woman

In this episode, we’re talking about the kind of growth that doesn’t always look like growth from the outside. **How do you know you’re becoming a different woman when nobody else can see it yet?** We talk a lot about transformation like it’s supposed to be obvious. A new look. A new life. A completely different version of you. But lately, I’ve been noticing the quieter ways I’m changing. The things I believe differently. The things I no longer need. The relationships I’m questioning. The parts of myself I’m finally trusting without needing everybody else to understand. If you’ve been feeling yourself shift in ways you can’t quite explain yet, this conversation is for you. **In this episode, we get into:** - Why I no longer need everybody in my life to fully understand me - Spending more money on the parts of my life only I get to experience - What changed when I stopped negotiating with my calling - Getting more specific about what I actually like and learning to trust my own taste - Why we may be outsourcing too many of our preferences to the internet - The difficult realization that history alone isn’t enough to sustain a friendship - The difference between catching up with your friends and actually keeping up with each other - Why everything you love doesn’t need to become productive, profitable, or purposeful - How trying to be “realistic” can sometimes be another way of making yourself smaller - Why I’d rather be absolutely ridiculous than regular - Becoming more comfortable with being different, giving a different answer, and choosing a different direction **Resources + Links:** Download the episode companion guide: https://spring-basil-85806.myflodesk.com/e85zoionw0 Join my private community, *Our Inner Thoughts*: https://tinyurl.com/34c8hbpj Inside the community: - Monthly Group Thoughts (live virtual discussions) - Inside My Mind Q&A sessions **Let’s keep the conversation going:** What are some of the quiet ways you know you’re becoming a different woman? Not the obvious things everybody else can see. What has changed in the way you think, what you tolerate, what you want, how you spend your time, who you keep close, or how you see yourself? **Connect with me:** Instagram & TikTok: @KalaRiggins Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Email: [Kala@KalaRiggins.com](mailto:Kala@KalaRiggins.com) **About the show:** *Thoughts From My Thirties* is a love letter to millennials who are just trying to figure it out. I’m Kala, content creator, storyteller, and your host. This is a space where we say the quiet part out loud, unpack real-life experiences, and have honest conversations about identity, creativity, relationships, and becoming. Because becoming a different woman isn’t always about completely reinventing yourself. Sometimes it’s quieter than that. It’s needing less explanation. Trusting your own taste. Taking your calling seriously. Reconsidering relationships that may no longer fit. Letting yourself enjoy something without needing to monetize it. And getting more comfortable with the fact that your answer, your direction, and your life might look different from everybody else’s. Over here, we’re learning to find peace in the process of simply figuring it out.