197: You’re More Worried About Being Judged Than Actually Moving Forward

Now, when it comes to just always focusing on other people's opinions and their overall judgment, this is something that is not only going to destroy your confidence, but your overall growth.

It's going to destroy how you see yourself, how you move through life, and how you actually strive for certain things.

Because at the end of the day, when you always worry about what other people have to say about you, whether it's your looks, your personality, whatever it might be, Eventually, you're going to start living your own life based on what they say instead of how you feel.

You're going to start living your life for other people instead of yourself.

And it's going to hold you down because that's exactly what it was doing with me until I not only started to learn.

how to put myself in certain situations that are actually going to help me grow, but how to then properly stop letting other people's opinions stop me from becoming the person that I truly wanted to become from here on out.

Because you see, back when I was still living in Maryland, always letting other people's opinions dictate what I would do with my life was something that was happening all the time.

Whether it was through my actions, my dreams, my goals, my nine to five.

Whatever it was, I would always let what other people would say dictate what I would do.

And it would start to drive me into these cycles.

I would start to lose the confidence in myself, what I was capable of, what I actually wanted to do as a person because I wasn't living for myself anymore.

I was changing my routines.

I was following in everyone else's footsteps.

I was doing what everyone else around me was doing because I didn't want to be the odd one out.

I was embarrassed if I was to go and step out of the cycle.

I was embarrassed to make mistakes when in all reality, that's how you grow, right? But because of my perspective towards these things, because of my mentality, I never took that action.

And until I finally realized that I had to stop letting other people's opinions dictate how I lived my life.

dictate the decisions that I made on a day-to-day basis, everything started to change.