Reparenting and Humanizing Yourself Guided Process

Reparenting old wounds and humanizing yourself.

The entire purpose of this specific guided process is to practice self-compassion and empathy.

This is an extremely important practice in anyone's healing journey.

So we're going to start by thinking of a mistake or a regret that you have.

It is always good to think of the smaller ones first and build up as you become better and more proficient at exercising self-compassion.

When you have this selected focus in your mind, I want you to go right back into that moment or situation in your mind where this experience happened.

It could be, for example, that you said the wrong thing to someone you loved, or you made a mistake on something you turned in at work, or perhaps that you didn't prepare well enough for something in your life.

and anchor yourself back into that mindset of how you felt when you had this experience.

Notice the feelings that come up for you in your body when you reflect upon this event.

What emotions are you currently experiencing when you think about this memory? What do these emotions feel like for you? What sensations do they exist as in your body? Now, take a moment to notice the judgments you made about yourself during this event or because of this event.

What self judgments do you notice that you made? It might feel like it's easy or familiar to make a judgment about ourselves, but if someone else made these same judgments about us externally as you are internally, about yourself in that moment, how would you feel towards that person? How are these painful self judgments affecting the relationship you have to yourself? Now, I want you to think back to what led up to this mistake.

What was going on in your life at the time? Were you afraid? Did you have a limiting subconscious programs you picked up from past experiences that were getting in your way? What do you notice led up to or contributed to you making that mistake to begin with? Now, I want you to notice what you were thinking and believing about yourself or the situation you were involved in right before you made this mistake.

What can you remember about what you were thinking, believing, or feeling? And were those thoughts helping you or hurting you? Take a moment and try to see yourself as a human being.

Imagine you were watching this story of this event play out as if it were a movie.

How would you feel towards this character if you were watching yourself from the outside? Is it possible to see their innocence in everything that had led up to that mistake or error in judgment? Would it be possible for you to feel empathy towards them? Now take a moment and treat yourself like a human being.

Notice your innocence by looking truly at the entire situation, the belief patterns you were carrying, the fears that were alive within you, the painful thoughts that were coming up or the uncomfortable feelings you were trying to get away from.

Give yourself an opportunity to express empathy and compassion towards yourself instead of self-judgment or shaming yourself.

And in your mind's eye, you can even imagine giving yourself a hug if that's helpful to you.

Take a moment and ask yourself what you need from you in order to be more compassionate in your relationship to yourself on a daily basis.

And observe what comes up.

Now, you can still choose to take responsibility for what led to your mistake or regret, but we only do this effectively by looking at the root level, which is often obscured by the self-judgments we make and the painful patterns of internal dialogue we have.

So look at the root.

What do you need to heal or work on in yourself so that you don't repeat these painful patterns again? What can you improve? Take a second and compassionately notice the ideas and awarenesses that come into your mind.

Try to do this from a place of non-judgment.

Now take one final moment to show yourself some compassion and understanding.