Building Your Tribe

Yeah.

Uh, I'm beyond grateful that I came directly to Vancouver.

It's been beautiful city, and it was magical when I landed.

You know, when we plan to migrate, it is covered with that kind of excitement about the new world that you're going to see and experience and you're finally thinking about how you are going to get out of a space that would not let you grow.

So that's how every immigrant comes to this side of the world.

Nobody really thinks about what is left behind, and honestly, it does not even hit you in the first few months.

Because these months we are just focusing on surviving, settling, and navigating a very steep learning curve.

But once things settle a little, there comes a strange uneasiness, and that's when we start to compare home with the new home.

And most people really do not scratch beyond the surface, but that is what exactly costing you underneath, and that is about your identity that you have spent years building.

So I, I migrated in my late 20s.

I had my friend circle, my professional network, my family, my cousins, everyone around me, and I felt safe, comfortable, and loved.

But when I moved far away, first time zones barely overlap and life gets too busy that you do not even have time for yourself, and that stops you from keeping in touch.

And slowly those connections become not distant, but hard to maintain.

And that is one of the real cost.

And you lose the identity that you had built, and you start building relationship from scratch on a completely different terms.

For example, most friendships in our life actually happen very organically.

You, either you grow up together, you work together, or you just naturally find your people through interest and whatnot.

But for an immigrant, there is no such luxury, actually.

You just end up-

Yeah

... settling for familiarity, right? Maybe someone from-

Mm-hmm

...

the same culture or maybe someone who knows the same language or maybe someone who likes the same food probably.

But you are-

Yeah.

Uh, I'm beyond grateful that I came directly to Vancouver.

It's been beautiful city, and it was magical when I landed.

You know, when we plan to migrate, it is covered with that kind of excitement about the new world that you're going to see and experience and you're finally thinking about how you are going to get out of a space that would not let you grow.

So that's how every immigrant comes to this side of the world.

Nobody really thinks about what is left behind, and honestly, it does not even hit you in the first few months.

Because these months we are just focusing on surviving, settling, and navigating a very steep learning curve.

But once things settle a little, there comes a strange uneasiness, and that's when we start to compare home with the new home.

And most people really do not scratch beyond the surface, but that is what exactly costing you underneath, and that is about your identity that you have spent years building.

So I, I migrated in my late 20s.

I had my friend circle, my professional network, my family, my cousins, everyone around me, and I felt safe, comfortable, and loved.

But when I moved far away, first time zones barely overlap and life gets too busy that you do not even have time for yourself, and that stops you from keeping in touch.

And slowly those connections become not distant, but hard to maintain.

And that is one of the real cost.

And you lose the identity that you had built, and you start building relationship from scratch on a completely different terms.

For example, most friendships in our life actually happen very organically.

You, either you grow up together, you work together, or you just naturally find your people through interest and whatnot.

But for an immigrant, there is no such luxury, actually.

You just end up-

Yeah

... settling for familiarity, right? Maybe someone from-

Mm-hmm

...

the same culture or maybe someone who knows the same language or maybe someone who likes the same food probably.

But you are-