331. How to Build Confidence When You Don’t Feel Good Enough

I remember when I first started my self-love journey, there was a point in my life where I couldn't even look at myself in the mirror.

My main thought about my body was that I was disgusting, that I was a piece of shit, and I honestly, I could honestly say now, like, I did hate my body at that time.

Like, any time I looked at myself, I instantly just picked it apart.

I had nothing good to say about my body.

And I realized I couldn't just say the affirmations, "I love my body," or, "I'm so beautiful," and, "I'm so sexy.

Look at that fat ass." [laughs] I couldn't say those things because I didn't believe them.

And so I actually got this from a podcast eons ago, years ago [laughs] when I first started my self-love journey, just like how you are starting your self-love journey.

And something that really helped me become more confident, especially when it came to my body, was gratitude.

And I don't mean where you write three cute things in a little journal because someone told you gratitude is good for you.

I mean going back to the basics, gratitude.

If you're struggling with your body today, let's go all the way back.

Can you see? Thank you.

Thank you for your eyes.

Is your heart beating? Thank you.

Thank you for my heart.

Do your lungs take another breath while you're listening to me? Thank you, lungs.

Can your legs carry you from your bed to your bathroom? Thank you, legs.

Can your hands pick up a phone? Thank you, hands.

Sometimes we're so busy criticizing what our bodies look like that we have completely forgotten what our body can actually do.

If you're looking at your stomach saying, "Ugh, I'm so fat.

I don't like this," meanwhile, your stomach has your intestines being able to digest delicious, yummy foods that you had.

You're able to have your colon and your rectum [laughs] to help you push out the foods that you ate.

Even though you may not like your body, your heart is beating without you even asking.

Your lungs are breathing without you consciously saying, "Breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out, inhale, exhale, inhale, exhale." Your body is keeping you alive while you're criticizing it.

And honestly, that's kind of wild for me to, like, really think about it.

I remember when I first started my self-love journey, there was a point in my life where I couldn't even look at myself in the mirror.

My main thought about my body was that I was disgusting, that I was a piece of shit, and I honestly, I could honestly say now, like, I did hate my body at that time.

Like, any time I looked at myself, I instantly just picked it apart.

I had nothing good to say about my body.

And I realized I couldn't just say the affirmations, "I love my body," or, "I'm so beautiful," and, "I'm so sexy.

Look at that fat ass." [laughs] I couldn't say those things because I didn't believe them.

And so I actually got this from a podcast eons ago, years ago [laughs] when I first started my self-love journey, just like how you are starting your self-love journey.

And something that really helped me become more confident, especially when it came to my body, was gratitude.

And I don't mean where you write three cute things in a little journal because someone told you gratitude is good for you.

I mean going back to the basics, gratitude.

If you're struggling with your body today, let's go all the way back.

Can you see? Thank you.

Thank you for your eyes.

Is your heart beating? Thank you.

Thank you for my heart.

Do your lungs take another breath while you're listening to me? Thank you, lungs.

Can your legs carry you from your bed to your bathroom? Thank you, legs.

Can your hands pick up a phone? Thank you, hands.

Sometimes we're so busy criticizing what our bodies look like that we have completely forgotten what our body can actually do.

If you're looking at your stomach saying, "Ugh, I'm so fat.

I don't like this," meanwhile, your stomach has your intestines being able to digest delicious, yummy foods that you had.

You're able to have your colon and your rectum [laughs] to help you push out the foods that you ate.

Even though you may not like your body, your heart is beating without you even asking.

Your lungs are breathing without you consciously saying, "Breathe in, breathe out, breathe in, breathe out, inhale, exhale, inhale, exhale." Your body is keeping you alive while you're criticizing it.

And honestly, that's kind of wild for me to, like, really think about it.