Do We Really Have Friends Anymore? | Finding Real Connection in a Virtual World

Because as adults, it's easy to write off friends.

I just say it's too hard to make friends.

I have friends and they're just social media friends or they're just pickup line friends.

And so it's important to understand that you can create friendships as an adult.

It's not as easy as when you were a kid.

When you're a kid, you're playing soccer together, you're going to dance class, you're in school every day with the same people.

And so it's easy to create proximity friends because you're just doing life with those people.

And in fact, when our kids would graduate high school, we would say, your life's about to change.

Like, if you're tired of the people you've been doing life with for all these years, that's okay because you're getting ready.

Your proximity is going to change.

The people that you're around, is going to change.

And because of that, your friendships are also going to change.

So when you're an adult, you don't have as many proximity friends.

You don't have so many people that you're just doing life with.

Maybe it's a coworker that you see every day, and that could be a proximity relationship.

Maybe it is the parents at the playground, a proximity relationship.

But going deeper in our adult relationships, cultivating friendship, it can really be hard because as adults we just get busy.

We don't take time for ourselves.

We don't take time to do things that maybe we would do when we were single or when we were younger.

to invest into friendships.

Everybody needs us, but the truth is we have a connection that needs to be made, a deep connection to be seen as a person.

God created us not to do life solo, not to be isolated, but to actually do life within community.

Even Jesus, if you see Jesus in the Bible, He had people around him.

He ministered to crowds of people, but then he had the disciples.

And even within his disciple group, he had Peter, James, and John.