Ep 172 The First Explanation Isn't Always the Truth

What I'm talking about, this shift that I'm talking about starts with the explanation that we give for ourselves for what's happening with us, with our bodies, with what's going on in our heads, with our emotions, like what's going on in our lives at this time.

And the explanation that we give ourselves, I don't think we actually... realize how much power that explanation has in our lives, how much power it has over us, how much power it has to influence what happens for the next 5, 10, 15, 20 plus years, all right? So here, let me kind of explain a little bit.

I used to think that I was incredibly honest with myself.

And looking back, I don't think that's actually what I was doing.

I came to this conclusion some time ago.

So for example, for years in my 20s, my 30s, and especially once I got into like my early 40s, the scale would go up, right? I stepped on the scale two, three times a day sometimes, always every single day.

And that number would go up on the scale.

And I already knew what that meant, right? I had an explanation for it.

I knew that it meant that I was not eating healthy.

I had lost my focus on my health focus, right? I had...

lost my discipline or my ability to be consistent, I would say, okay, you've got to start a diet.

You have to start exercising and be consistent with it.

And then the first time I maybe skipped exercise for a day, I would say, okay, you're slipping.

That's the explanation.

If I got really tired to the I would say like, you need to get your act together.

Like you need to get your shit together, get focused.

And it would happen in my brain so fast that I didn't question that explanation.

Like I said, I just thought I was being really honest.

I was telling myself the truth.

I was holding myself accountable.

But here's what I eventually realized.

And it's not like I went to bed one night and I woke up and had this epiphany and like, oh my gosh, I figured out what I'm doing.

I'm really condensing years of... study, scientific study in depth, work on myself, a focus on how the brain works at this point in midlife when we're entering this transitional.

So it was a culmination of a lot of work that I'm making sound like I just woke up and realized it wasn't that simple, okay? But what I did eventually realize is that I wasn't telling myself the truth.