Can You Be Too Nice?

Is being “too nice” really the problem? Or is the problem being nice to everyone except yourself? In this episode, Sarah and Simonne explore the differences between niceness, kindness and people-pleasing. Being nice doesn't have to mean ignoring your own needs, avoiding difficult conversations, or making everyone else happy. In fact, sometimes the kindest thing you can do is risk making someone a little uncomfortable. Along the way, Sarah and Simonne accidentally invent a new concept: **self-niceness**. What if we treated ourselves with the same patience, politeness and consideration we so readily offer other people? Perhaps the world does not need *less* niceness; maybe we need niceness *with* boundaries, kindness with courage and a whole lot more self-niceness. **Quote of the Week:**  *"The mantra of ‘treat others the way you want to be treated’ is more important than ever."* Simonne McVanel    **Greatness Together Podcast Highlights:** 00:00 Can You Be Too Nice? 01:17 The difference between kindness and niceness 04:22 Turning kindness inward: self-niceness 07:32 The golden rule: treat others as you treat yourself 12:07 Using affirmations and recognition to boost self-kindness 16:45 Introducing the concept of self-nicing 19:44 Advice for younger generations on niceness 23:09 The future of niceness and social harmony 24:35  See you next time… Simonne has been on an unapologetic mission to get Sarah to give her brain a break, including policing her habit of filling every quiet moment with her AirPods (audiobooks, podcasts, phone calls) and to live more in the moment. She recently insisted that her reluctant running friends complete a fireside compliment circle. They may have resisted at first, but she caught them trying to hide their smiles as the compliments began to land. Was she ‘nice’? Not necessarily. Was she kind, generous, and wonderful? Heck yes. Being ‘nice’ can be overrated and overpracticed.  Both stories raise an interesting question. Can we care deeply about someone while pushing them outside their comfort zone? Sarah and Simonne talk about when niceness becomes people-pleasing, why genuine kindness sometimes requires honesty, and how the way we treat ourselves inevitably spills into how we treat everyone else.   Did you like this episode? Then you’ll probably also like this one on “Do You Practice Self-Care in Your Routine?” https://greatnessmagnified.com/podcast-archives/ep-53-do-you-practice-self-care-in-your-routine/   **Greatness Together Podcast Links:** How Compliments Create a Chain Reaction Greatness Magnified Subscribe to The Greatness Together Podcast