30 things that people in narcissistic relationships are told ~ Dr. Ramani
Oct 24, 2026 · 10 min · 4 segments
30 things that people in narcissistic relationships are told ~ Dr. Ramani
Oct 24, 2026 · 10 min · 4 segments
30 things that people in narcissistic relationships are told ~ Dr. Ramani
So I'm gonna start with the proverb, okay? So the proverb is one of those places where I sort of, you know, kind of nailed the book down, right? It's an old proverb and it's one that often catches people by surprise, right? Because we view the lion as the strong thing and it's a force to be reckoned with, right? But even though the lion certainly could take out the hunter, the hunter has an advantage.
The hunter has the weaponry to take the lion out, despite the lion's own strength.
So let's go back to the core of that saying, right? That the tale of the hunt will always glorify the hunter.
I'm gonna be frank with you, when I read that proverb again and I was thinking about this video, this channel is guilty of that too.
I talk a lot about the what and the why of narcissism, what it is, why they are the way they are, how they behave, their sensitivities, their proclivities, their wounds, their traits, their tactics, their inner psychology, all of it.
We want to understand it as though by understanding it might hurt us less or that we might actually figure out the thing we could change.
What's even more interesting is if you look at even just the literature, even what the psychologists and psychiatrists read and the therapists, most of the literature about narcissism is about the narcissist, right? How they behave in relationships, why they succeed, how they lead, how they behave in the workplace, how to do therapy with them, how they became the way they are.
There's virtually no, zero, none literature on what happens to people in narcissistic relationships.
And even that literature does this annoying little thing where the researchers at the end of their paper will make a suggestion like, and so therapy with narcissistic people is important to help end these patterns.
Instead, these authors should take the more courageous leap and speak the truth.
Basically, say something like, we need to educate survivors on how harmful narcissism is.
But nobody takes that stance because if they did, their work wouldn't be published.
mental health practitioners and researchers have been taught to not speak the painful truth about narcissistic relationships for a very long time up to the present day.
Now, I don't know that the literature on narcissism always glorifies narcissistic people.
But if you read this literature, You learn about this group of people who have a personality, who despite their insecurities, despite their shame, to the world they seem really sure of themselves.
So I'm gonna start with the proverb, okay? So the proverb is one of those places where I sort of, you know, kind of nailed the book down, right? It's an old proverb and it's one that often catches people by surprise, right? Because we view the lion as the strong thing and it's a force to be reckoned with, right? But even though the lion certainly could take out the hunter, the hunter has an advantage.
The hunter has the weaponry to take the lion out, despite the lion's own strength.
So let's go back to the core of that saying, right? That the tale of the hunt will always glorify the hunter.
I'm gonna be frank with you, when I read that proverb again and I was thinking about this video, this channel is guilty of that too.
I talk a lot about the what and the why of narcissism, what it is, why they are the way they are, how they behave, their sensitivities, their proclivities, their wounds, their traits, their tactics, their inner psychology, all of it.
We want to understand it as though by understanding it might hurt us less or that we might actually figure out the thing we could change.
What's even more interesting is if you look at even just the literature, even what the psychologists and psychiatrists read and the therapists, most of the literature about narcissism is about the narcissist, right? How they behave in relationships, why they succeed, how they lead, how they behave in the workplace, how to do therapy with them, how they became the way they are.
There's virtually no, zero, none literature on what happens to people in narcissistic relationships.
And even that literature does this annoying little thing where the researchers at the end of their paper will make a suggestion like, and so therapy with narcissistic people is important to help end these patterns.
Instead, these authors should take the more courageous leap and speak the truth.
Basically, say something like, we need to educate survivors on how harmful narcissism is.
But nobody takes that stance because if they did, their work wouldn't be published.
mental health practitioners and researchers have been taught to not speak the painful truth about narcissistic relationships for a very long time up to the present day.
Now, I don't know that the literature on narcissism always glorifies narcissistic people.
But if you read this literature, You learn about this group of people who have a personality, who despite their insecurities, despite their shame, to the world they seem really sure of themselves.
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