narcissistic personality disorder

Maybe like taking a break, putting stuff down and saying, you know what, I'm going to take a nap.

the loss of self-care is a standard experience for anyone in a narcissistic relationship and it's unfortunate because if there was ever a group of people that require self-care it is feeble in these kinds of toxic relationships in a way self-care would be the only way to survive so one would wonder what happens how do narcissistic relationships erode self-care first Narcissistic people will shame your self-care, though they take pretty damn good care of themselves.

The vast majority of people I have worked with throughout my career, and it doesn't matter what kind of relationship it was, parent, partner, work, other family, have said, without exception, that if they were caught engaging in self-care that they were called selfish self-indulgent or it was those things were quietly implied with passive-aggressive remarks like oh wow you must not be working that hard do you really have time for that or did you actually get done all the stuff you said you were gonna get done or oh is that really how you're gonna spend your money or even Wow, is it really any wonder you don't get anything done if you're just sitting around? Whatever dig they get in, narcissistic relationships in general are a place where your needs go to die.

Your needs, not theirs.

This is really unfortunate if this originates in childhood, because engaging in anything that resembles self-care can feel impossible when you reach adulthood.

You may see a parent doing it, but yet everyone else would be shamed for engaging in it.

Narcissistic relationships are places where your needs are secondary and even shameful.

So to actually do what you need to be and feel healthy, to be responsive to yourself, well, that flies in the face of the premise of the narcissistic relationship.

Just like all pain, it's going to sting, it's going to hurt, so let it.

The one advantage we have when it comes to heartbreak time the vast majority of folks start to write themselves with time and this too will pass with the added bonus that for narcissistic folks all things bright will eventually fizzle and that's gonna happen with this too just don't get yourself get hoovered right Narcissistic folks live in a fantasy world.

Fantasies of endless success, fame, fortune, and grandiose romantic love stories.

It's why they often get married so many times.

Narcissistic bosses get supply being in charge from the perks of the office, the salary.

Narcissistic people cheat because it gives them new supply.

It's all about supply.

The tricky piece about narcissistic supply is that while there are universals, praise, winning, money, being in power, validation, the things that may be associated with that may vary and it will be relative.

For another, it may be a tryst with someone that they meet at the gym.

You get the picture.

Narcissistic supply helps narcissistic people feel safe because they feel in control, in power, and they're getting the validation and admiration that they desperately need.

And while they have it, while they have supply, they actually can seem like nice people, relatively well-regulated.

如果接下来三到五年之内不用担心AI泡沫破裂的话，三到五年之内还-还会继续写吗？

当然啊，当然，这行业如此地疯狂，你会发现这个行业骗子是如此的多，这个行业的故事是如此之精彩，就远远超越了，就比如说我们的大学生活，就-就-就我觉得我-我生活中过去遇到的是正常人，也没有非常疯狂的人，无非这个人性格怪一点，或者那个人更挑衅性一点，就都大体上都遇到正常人。但AI行业里面充斥着如此之多的骗子、NPD和你不知道他在干嘛的人，但这些人居然有的人居然还能拿到钱，有的人居然还能成为行业明星。我-我-我-我真的觉得不管中国还是美国也好，也许有个人应该去调查调研一下，发问卷调研一下这个AI行业的这个精神病发病率，或者这些健康指标，应该是非常夸张的。AI行业里面的NPD或者ADHD的含量是如此之高，以至于这个行业其他大部分人都不太正常。这是一个如此，如此勃勃生机、万物井发的行业，对，供奉盛宴一定要参与一下，这个，这个行业太有意思了，你没有见过这么多不正常的人。就我成天，就我成天在网吧里边，我在网吧里边遇到的一些人，无非也就是在网吧里面突然抽根烟，然后被网管赶出去，或者突然开一个外挂被网管赶出去，这些非常正常的事情。AI行业的人，一方面他们牵扯的，牵扯到的是如此之多的资源，就比如说你在中国进行一个AI应用创业，如果你背景还不错的话，你拿到一个大概几百万美金的融资，然后按照一个小几千万美金的估值是一个相对正常的一个事情。就如果模型创业的话，你知道Kimi，Kimi，Kimi最新的融资是500亿美金估值进行的，当然这个数据可能有一点延迟。对，所以一个如此多热钱涌入的行业，但其中从业者是如此的不正常，甚至我觉得热钱和精神不正常两个这之间是正相关的。这个行业是非常疯狂，非常有意思。

行，真是非常感谢今天来，啊，今天来聊天，聊得很开心。

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Antisocial Personality Disorder is a diagnosis involving a persistent disregard for other people's rights.

Narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder are different diagnoses, too.

The American Psychiatric Association describes different patterns for each even though a person can have more than one personality disorder.

Those distinctions keep us from putting every painful relationship under the same label.

We're managing that behavior, right? We're managing them.

Um, so even if somebody found like an NPD guru, like go, you know, go fix this person.

We still don't know if that person has it in them to do the work that would require to change.

Even if this particular therapist has had success with some narcissistic people in the past, right? So that's another thing is, um, you don't want to put all the responsibility on this, on a specialist to try to fix someone like this.

And when you add into it that just like any new obsessive relationship, it's reward oriented and sort of dopamine-y, narcissistic folks are very reward sensitive and might enjoy this kind of a ride.

Limerence can also be quite problematic for people who are in existing committed relationships.

The limerent person may find themselves developing strong feelings for someone outside of their primary relationship, They might meet someone else and for one time get caught in the fantasy of it all the obsession the infatuation And no longer bring any emotional energy to their existing relationship even if they don't act on it it can feel like a betrayal to the person in the existing relationship and this pattern isn't unusual for Narcissistic folks who will become obsessed with someone outside of their primary relationship largely because they are so novelty seeking and And with narcissists, you can all but guarantee they'll probably follow through on it and say, this is a once in a lifetime experience.

There is a little bit of a, I don't know, an immaturity to limerence, a sort of shallowness, more steeped in fantasy than reality.

It feels more like eighth grade than it feels like an adult relationship.