The Divorced Dadvocate: Strategic Defense for Fathers
Jun 1, 2026 · 1 hr 1 min · 14 segments
Divorce can turn a normal day into a pressure cooker: custody schedules, money stress, a house that goes quiet overnight, and one text from your ex that flips your mood in seconds. We sit down with…
Tyler McAdamsGuest
Jude SandvallHost
Well, let's talk about that because you talk a lot about how men don't actually break all at once.
And they drift in their marriages, which may be part of the contribution to why it ended, drift in their routines, stop being themselves long before the divorce really happens and so from your journey your work with dads how does this drift like this realization we're talking right he realized losses his identity before the crisis even hits and you know or at least another crisis hits right because the guys that are listening right now are in a crisis because they're in divorce right
Sorry, I heard the drifting part, but I got broken up on the last part of it.
Yeah, so the... how does the drift happen silently is the first part of the question.
And the second is how does a man realize he's lost his identity before another crisis hits, right? Right.
Because this drift has happened and we've gotten into this drift, but we didn't know it.
Like how does he, how do we figure that out before we have another crisis? Yeah.
I mean, it happens slowly, right? When you stop taking care of yourself, you lose yourself in the sense like if you're not taking care of your own mental state and your body and all the other things, that's where you realize you're drifting.
If you're really reactive as a man, as a person to your kids or you're emotionally reactive to your ex or whatever, like those are the things that are – showing you signs that you're in a drifting state.
You're not fully structured in the way you should be living your life because you're allowing other people to influence you where you're not taking that discipline and leadership role to take that next level, take that next step and really focus on what matters most.
And that really is getting yourself grounded into a strong emotional state of mind and keeping your body right and fit and strong.
and showing your kids the role model that they need to emulate and to go out and to see.
Well, let's talk about that because you talk a lot about how men don't actually break all at once.
And they drift in their marriages, which may be part of the contribution to why it ended, drift in their routines, stop being themselves long before the divorce really happens and so from your journey your work with dads how does this drift like this realization we're talking right he realized losses his identity before the crisis even hits and you know or at least another crisis hits right because the guys that are listening right now are in a crisis because they're in divorce right
Sorry, I heard the drifting part, but I got broken up on the last part of it.
Yeah, so the... how does the drift happen silently is the first part of the question.
And the second is how does a man realize he's lost his identity before another crisis hits, right? Right.
Because this drift has happened and we've gotten into this drift, but we didn't know it.
Like how does he, how do we figure that out before we have another crisis? Yeah.
I mean, it happens slowly, right? When you stop taking care of yourself, you lose yourself in the sense like if you're not taking care of your own mental state and your body and all the other things, that's where you realize you're drifting.
If you're really reactive as a man, as a person to your kids or you're emotionally reactive to your ex or whatever, like those are the things that are – showing you signs that you're in a drifting state.
You're not fully structured in the way you should be living your life because you're allowing other people to influence you where you're not taking that discipline and leadership role to take that next level, take that next step and really focus on what matters most.
And that really is getting yourself grounded into a strong emotional state of mind and keeping your body right and fit and strong.
and showing your kids the role model that they need to emulate and to go out and to see.
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