So what was life like growing up for you, and how did your childhood shape the man and the father you are today?

Yeah, so my childhood was, you know, I grew up with basically a split household in the sense of, you know, my father basically at the age of three years old, he and my mom had split.

And, you know, I, my sister and I at the time, and then we had, we ended up finding another marriage, my mom did.

I got into another marriage not too long after.

But my father kind of abandoned us in a sense of just not being there for us, being present for us, not being involved in our lives as much as fathers, I feel, should be.

So it kind of has shaped me.

It's kind of left me a...

all right wow like you said what is the most important is that you broke those circles right you made sure you didn't carry on to your children and you made sure you broke those unhealthy patterns which is i think is the most important thing so i'm saying honestly so yeah i want us to you know dive into what you're doing now right so today you coach fathers through the hero method right so what what exactly does that framework help men do

So maybe you can just start by telling us a little bit about yourself and kind of what has you on this path to doing this work.

Yeah.

Well, I'm a single father of four kids.

I have four kids at the ages of 14.

I almost said 13.

He just turned 14.

And my son.

Oh,

the broken record indeed and mr tyler you said you look strong on the outside but we are carrying much more than people realize what was the gap between people saw you and how you actually felt and what was it costing you to maintain that image

Yeah, it's inner peace, right? It comes with inner peace is what it's costing you.

Peace within yourself, peace energy, your low energy.

You can have...

You can look great on the outside and look fantastic in front of other people, put a smile on and show everybody that everything looks good, right? The Instagram profile looks good and all that other stuff, right? Or anything like that.

But in reality, the back end of it is there's a lot of pressure, a lot of weight on your shoulders.

You're trying to provide for your kids.

yes definitely baby steps people baby steps so walk through the hero method mr tyler he'll stop lays regulate own why does healing come first and what do men often try to do instead that keeps them stuck

So can you like share your life before the divorce or maybe during the divorce? Can you just share something personal with us today? Let's feel among with you.

Yeah.

I, I mean, I'm definitely not an overnight success story, but, uh, you know, basically, you know, my, my life, um, prior to divor- you know, prior to the marriage and divorce and all that, um, you know, my...

When I was a young kid, uh, my father left me when I was age, basically, uh, age of eight.

Uh, my parents got divorced at the age of three, but he stopped connecting or stopped being in my life at the age of eight years old.

And, um, since that point in time, I've always kind of thought, you know, why, why is it that fathers leave their children, right? I don't under- I never have understood how a father could just up and leave their children.

So I kinda made a, a vow, uh, I think when I was younger, uh, to make sure I was staying consistent, staying present in my kids' lives to, to never have that happen to, to, uh, to them, right? And to be that, be that present father that I wanna be or that I sh- that they deserve, because I think fathers are the most, and men are the most important relationship a, a child can have.

Instead of processing it.

How long have you been divorced? What were the circumstances? Where are you at now?

So my story, it's not some overnight success story, but it's been one of those things where it's been a lot of challenges, a lot of challenges.

I got divorced back in 2023, separated in 2022.

I was married for 10 years.

I knew her for...

We knew each other for about 17.

So it was a challenge.

Like how does he, how do we figure that out before we have another crisis? Yeah.