Aug 18, 2026 · 50 min · 14 segments
Someone tells you to rest, and your brain goes: rest from *what*, exactly? In this episode, Kerri and Luisa pull apart the tangled, oddly loaded idea of "relaxation" and why the version other people…
I just get stuck with now my perfect day sounds like people throwing work at me.
No.
Because normally I complain that it's stressful for me that others decide over my time.
But as I say, the most relaxing day for me is a day where there is an agenda full of fun activities that we then do together.
And feeling seen.
And feeling seen.
Yeah.
My perfect day is this lovely thing with unicorns and rainbows and mine is murdery.
No, it's like one of the most perfect days within the past 390 days was a weekend day where my two friends and I met at her place and she had curated a full day of demos of different video games that we got to try.
And she decided which game to play when and what made sense and how long would we play each game and gave it this nice theme and atmosphere around it.
And we had the schedule.
It was all written down on a whiteboard.
We had snacks with fundraising.
It was amazing.
That sounds lovely.
And I didn't have to decide anything.
But it was decided by us together that we want to have that day.
Well, that's the thing, isn't it? Like you decided, I want to be this level of sociable.
Yes.
But what that looks like, I'm open to.
And I think that's it.
For me, I would love that.
But if somebody turned up unannounced to be like, I'm just taking you away for a weekend.
It's stuff you enjoy, but I'm just taking you away for the weekend.
I'd be like, oh, I'm so stressed.
I just get stuck with now my perfect day sounds like people throwing work at me.
No.
Because normally I complain that it's stressful for me that others decide over my time.
But as I say, the most relaxing day for me is a day where there is an agenda full of fun activities that we then do together.
And feeling seen.
And feeling seen.
Yeah.
My perfect day is this lovely thing with unicorns and rainbows and mine is murdery.
No, it's like one of the most perfect days within the past 390 days was a weekend day where my two friends and I met at her place and she had curated a full day of demos of different video games that we got to try.
And she decided which game to play when and what made sense and how long would we play each game and gave it this nice theme and atmosphere around it.
And we had the schedule.
It was all written down on a whiteboard.
We had snacks with fundraising.
It was amazing.
That sounds lovely.
And I didn't have to decide anything.
But it was decided by us together that we want to have that day.
Well, that's the thing, isn't it? Like you decided, I want to be this level of sociable.
Yes.
But what that looks like, I'm open to.
And I think that's it.
For me, I would love that.
But if somebody turned up unannounced to be like, I'm just taking you away for a weekend.
It's stuff you enjoy, but I'm just taking you away for the weekend.
I'd be like, oh, I'm so stressed.
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