Sep 25, 2026 · 43 min · 9 segments
Over the course of the summer, I found myself navigating a bit of an identity crisis in my work. I had reached a point where astrology, as I had been practicing and teaching it, felt like it was…
The first thing I just want to say is that a lot of times when we stumble upon a discovery in our lives where we know something needs to change or something needs to shift or something that has fit for us for a long time no longer fits anymore and we're like, okay, what am I doing now? I can't be wearing this thing every single day.
It can be really scary because it can start to feel like, or it can feel like, you know, who we once knew ourselves to be.
Well, what do I do now? There's either the option of staying and pretending and trying to make things fit even when they don't.
I think even just speaking about it as if it were literal clothing, it's very uncomfortable to be wearing something that doesn't fit just right.
But also, if we choose not to do that, that means we're entering unknown territory where a lot of things in our life could change.
Our preferences and what we're attracted to and our relationship dynamics in themselves can change.
I had... a teacher years ago, describe it as you recognize that you need to start doing this new dance and you want to start dancing a new way.
And then the people around you are like, wait, but I thought we were doing that dance.
And some people decide to learn the new dance with you and continue dancing with you.
And sometimes that also happens when we go through these moments of crossing thresholds and really stepping into a new sense of identity.
So it can be really scary because it requires change and we don't always know what's on the other side of change.
But what I can tell you from having gone through many of these instances, this summer was one of the easier, more graspable examples of going through a big change in identity.
But Going through it, there's always a resolution on the other side that feels like it's much more aligned, that it actually fits just right.
The first thing I just want to say is that a lot of times when we stumble upon a discovery in our lives where we know something needs to change or something needs to shift or something that has fit for us for a long time no longer fits anymore and we're like, okay, what am I doing now? I can't be wearing this thing every single day.
It can be really scary because it can start to feel like, or it can feel like, you know, who we once knew ourselves to be.
Well, what do I do now? There's either the option of staying and pretending and trying to make things fit even when they don't.
I think even just speaking about it as if it were literal clothing, it's very uncomfortable to be wearing something that doesn't fit just right.
But also, if we choose not to do that, that means we're entering unknown territory where a lot of things in our life could change.
Our preferences and what we're attracted to and our relationship dynamics in themselves can change.
I had... a teacher years ago, describe it as you recognize that you need to start doing this new dance and you want to start dancing a new way.
And then the people around you are like, wait, but I thought we were doing that dance.
And some people decide to learn the new dance with you and continue dancing with you.
And sometimes that also happens when we go through these moments of crossing thresholds and really stepping into a new sense of identity.
So it can be really scary because it requires change and we don't always know what's on the other side of change.
But what I can tell you from having gone through many of these instances, this summer was one of the easier, more graspable examples of going through a big change in identity.
But Going through it, there's always a resolution on the other side that feels like it's much more aligned, that it actually fits just right.
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