1703: Rabbit holes and getting stuck in the mud

So we're on a bit of a mission to get as many things for the flat and for our lives secondhand.

So with Mr. Meg's Bike, a quick online search led us to this really cool charity that sells a lot of pre-loved bikes and just do some really cool stuff.

Their website didn't give any options, they just said to give them a call, so I gave them a call, told them our budget, told them roughly what we were looking for, And the person working there came back with four options with a clear favourite in mind of what would be the best fit.

We went down that afternoon, it definitely was the best fit and we were sorted.

The bike was in really cool colours, really well looked after and exactly what we were looking for.

In fact, better than that.

Now had I been left to my own devices I would have gone down the rabbit hole for so long that I would become a semi-expert on all things bike related.

Not only that my anxious brain would be hyper fixed on safety and I would take on this hyper responsibility and magical thinking about how if we were to pick the wrong bike and something happened it would be all my fault.

But here we have it.

We've got limited options and it is all done in the course of an afternoon.

And the reason I'm sharing this is because sometimes we just have to limit our options or go ask somebody who knows more than us and make a judgment from there.

Now I know for so many of us, freedom is one of our most dearly held values.

But sometimes that sense of freedom and the infinite options can just keep us really, really stuck in the mud.

I know for me with my creative projects, limitations and containers have been the things that make them actually exist in the first place.

and make them fly.

So while it feels counterintuitive, sometimes fewer options is best.

So if you are going round and round in circles or going deep down rabbit holes that you're not even interested in, try limiting the options.

Try taking away some of the choices and add some constraints.

You might mourn the infinite possibilities to begin with, but in a lot of situations, I think future you will be very grateful.

And one last thing about the bike.

I get buyer's remorse over everything, but I love this bike.

There were four to choose from, one was a clear winner and we walked away feeling excited about the bike rather than comparing it to all the could have beens.