Love Your Fate: David C. Finds Freedom Through the Steps

Um, I feel like I've done a lot of talking without a lot of, uh, a lot of points, but you know, I give one other example, just because I qualified this with my buddy.

Um, you know, my, my AA relationship, when it ended, I was at a very difficult crossroads of, you know, is, is this now the time for me to, to run away with my tail between my legs? I borrowed some money from her,

um,

while we were in a relationship

and, um,

You know, when my dad passed away shortly thereafter, I watched my mom go from having her person to having, you know, to having nobody, you know, when my dad died.

And so it became my mission to like, you know what, I want to find a partner.

I would like to find somebody to marry and do this thing together.

And yeah.

She was very upfront with me from the beginning.

Like, hey, look, I don't want to get married.

I've been there twice.

I've been there and done that.

And that's not on my high list of priorities.

But, you know, my alcoholism has always led me to believe that I could manipulate people or make them change their feelings to suit what I wanted in them.

and she stayed true to her message.

So when I was informed that she didn't want to get married, then my ego jumped in and had to break things off.

So for the last year, I've kind of been running around a little with Kind of with my, I guess, navel gazing is the best way to put it.

Feeling less than all over again and, you know, having some debt out there, especially within the rooms.

And I was able to use that recent experience to help a good friend of mine recently, you know, and told him transparently, man, like, look, if you're not sure that this is what you want, I strongly encourage you to look at the pros and cons of this relationship.

And if it's, if you were hasty or reactive, you know, to maybe go and make it right.

And oddly enough, you know, I had a two hour conversation on the phone with that guy that night.

We've been sober about the same time.

And, and then the next day I'm leaving a meeting at park 40 at noon.

And here, here comes his, his very recent ex.