Aug 5, 2026 · 21 min · 10 segments
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No, not at all.
It's-
And to understand how they share this marriage today, we really have to look at how they built it in the first place because this was not like a fairy tale romance from day one.
Far from it.
Right.
Yeah.
Monte actually started out very deep in Shante's friend zone.
He jokes in the interview that he was, uh, number five on the squad.
Number five.
That's rough.
I know, right? She liked going out to eat with him, talking with him, but they were firmly platonic.
Well, with occasional benefits.
You know, that platonic incubation period is actually doing a lot of heavy lifting here.
Well, when you're just friends with someone, you aren't performing that idealized version of yourself that usually comes out in early dating.
You know, you're emotionally transparent.
Oh, that makes a lot of sense.
Right.
So they were having these radically open conversations about their baseline desires, including Monte's interest in multiple partners long before there was ever a ring involved.
They established this baseline of psychological safety before the stakes got too high.
That's a great point.
And the, the chemistry was obvious to everyone around them too.
There's this great moment in the source material where they're on a group trip to Costa Rica, and Sarah Fontenot, who's the host of the interview we're referencing, was actually on that trip.
Oh, no way.
Yeah.
She looked at the two of them and essentially manifested their future out loud.
No, not at all.
It's-
And to understand how they share this marriage today, we really have to look at how they built it in the first place because this was not like a fairy tale romance from day one.
Far from it.
Right.
Yeah.
Monte actually started out very deep in Shante's friend zone.
He jokes in the interview that he was, uh, number five on the squad.
Number five.
That's rough.
I know, right? She liked going out to eat with him, talking with him, but they were firmly platonic.
Well, with occasional benefits.
You know, that platonic incubation period is actually doing a lot of heavy lifting here.
Well, when you're just friends with someone, you aren't performing that idealized version of yourself that usually comes out in early dating.
You know, you're emotionally transparent.
Oh, that makes a lot of sense.
Right.
So they were having these radically open conversations about their baseline desires, including Monte's interest in multiple partners long before there was ever a ring involved.
They established this baseline of psychological safety before the stakes got too high.
That's a great point.
And the, the chemistry was obvious to everyone around them too.
There's this great moment in the source material where they're on a group trip to Costa Rica, and Sarah Fontenot, who's the host of the interview we're referencing, was actually on that trip.
Oh, no way.
Yeah.
She looked at the two of them and essentially manifested their future out loud.
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