Ep. 168 The Past Is Over So Why Does It Still Hurt with Nicky Yazbeck

**The Past Is Over So Why Does It Still Hurt?** **Why do old experiences still affect our confidence, relationships, and ability to speak up, even when we think we’ve moved on?** **In this episode of The Beauty In The Mess, I sit down with Nicky Yazbeck, a licensed, trauma-informed EMDR therapist and podcast host, to explore the connections between past experiences, people-pleasing, and the belief that we’re somehow “not enough.”** **Nicky explains EMDR, which stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, and walks us through what a session can look like. We discuss emotional triggers, the importance of feeling safe with your therapist, and how healing can change the way you show up for yourself and others.** **If you’ve ever wondered why the same patterns keep repeating, this conversation offers a starting point for understanding them.** **In this episode:** - **How childhood experiences can shape beliefs about ourselves** - **People-pleasing, self-abandonment, and seeking approval** - **What EMDR involves beyond eye movements** - **Why trust, preparation, and pacing matter in therapy** - **Finding a qualified therapist you feel comfortable with** - **What progress can look like in everyday relationships** 02:05 Meet Nicky and hear her path to becoming an EMDR therapist 04:05 What EMDR stands for and how Nicky describes trauma 07:05 People-pleasing, perfectionism, and relationship patterns 10:05 Self-worth and the belief that “I’m not enough” 14:05 What an EMDR session can look like 17:05 Emotional triggers and physical reactions 18:05 Eye movements, tapping, and the EMDR process 23:05 Trauma, memory gaps, and preparing for therapy 27:05 How long EMDR therapy can take 32:05 Choosing a qualified therapist and finding the right fit 35:05 Noticing changes in your reactions and relationships 37:05 Nicky’s personal experience with EMDR 39:05 Safety, trust, and working with a licensed therapist 41:05 What healing and feeling more connected can look like 44:05 Nicky’s podcast and how to connect with her 46:05 When additional preparation or specialized care may be needed **✨ Connect with Nicky Yazbeck** • **Website: www.nickyYyoga.com** •**Podcast:** The Connected Community: Exploring Possibility (https://www.youtube.com/@TheConnectedCommunity/videos) • **YouTube:** Watch Nicky’s podcast **✨ Connect with Michele Simms** • Website: The Beauty In The Mess • Instagram: **@the.beauty.in.the.mess** • LinkedIn: **Michele Simms** • Facebook Group: **The Beauty in the Mess Podcast** **💬 Rate & Review** If this episode spoke to you, please like and subscribe and consider giving a 5-star review. **#TheBeautyInTheMess #NickyYazbeck #EMDR #TraumaHealing #MentalHealth #SelfWorth #PeoplePleasing #PersonalGrowth #HealingJourney** * * * Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.