Aug 5, 2026 · 27 min · 9 segments
Have you ever walked into a meeting knowing exactly what you wanted to say, only to question yourself the moment someone challenged your idea or questioned your expertise? You may think you need more…
Yan DangHost
This is self-trust, and I think this is where leadership actually begins because most women know so much information, right? And most of you that are listening to this podcast are likely brilliant women that are high-achieving, that know their stuff down.
But what happens oftentimes is when the stakes are high or when you're feeling a lot of emotions, you may end up seeking permission to self-trust.
We trust other people's opinion, our boss, our mentor, potentially performance reviews, everyone except ourselves.
And I know this because when I think back to when I started to really build the stronger foundation inside myself, I realized that when the going got tough, I would look to other people to help solve my problem.
But the reality was I hadn't been through this experience before, and so my brain was telling me I needed some more information.
So the situation was every month end, I would walk into my meeting and my boss and talk about the financials for the month.
And without realizing it, I had given him all of my power, and I knew that this pattern, I didn't want it to continue, right? And what I actually learned to do was trust myself every single time.
I just became much more conscious of what I was dealing with, and I learned to practice commanding myself, not allowing this person's abrasive comments and thoughts and tone to take over and have me shut down.
So every time I went back for another month-end meeting or another meeting with him, instead of thinking that there is somebody who's gonna come save me or shutting down myself, I learned to be more and more conscious of myself.
It doesn't feel good, but I can overcome this moment, and I can handle it." This is the very beginning of command because if you learn to trust yourself and you learn to have your own back while the going gets tough, while the proverbial shit is hitting the fan- This is the moment that you need to be able to start building this command foundation within yourself.
This is self-trust, and I think this is where leadership actually begins because most women know so much information, right? And most of you that are listening to this podcast are likely brilliant women that are high-achieving, that know their stuff down.
But what happens oftentimes is when the stakes are high or when you're feeling a lot of emotions, you may end up seeking permission to self-trust.
We trust other people's opinion, our boss, our mentor, potentially performance reviews, everyone except ourselves.
And I know this because when I think back to when I started to really build the stronger foundation inside myself, I realized that when the going got tough, I would look to other people to help solve my problem.
But the reality was I hadn't been through this experience before, and so my brain was telling me I needed some more information.
So the situation was every month end, I would walk into my meeting and my boss and talk about the financials for the month.
And without realizing it, I had given him all of my power, and I knew that this pattern, I didn't want it to continue, right? And what I actually learned to do was trust myself every single time.
I just became much more conscious of what I was dealing with, and I learned to practice commanding myself, not allowing this person's abrasive comments and thoughts and tone to take over and have me shut down.
So every time I went back for another month-end meeting or another meeting with him, instead of thinking that there is somebody who's gonna come save me or shutting down myself, I learned to be more and more conscious of myself.
It doesn't feel good, but I can overcome this moment, and I can handle it." This is the very beginning of command because if you learn to trust yourself and you learn to have your own back while the going gets tough, while the proverbial shit is hitting the fan- This is the moment that you need to be able to start building this command foundation within yourself.
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