Oct 2, 2026 · 34 min · 10 segments
Welcome back to part two of our Today's Taboos launch event from 2025. If you haven't listened to part one yet, that's where we unveil the year's four taboos - silent suicidal thoughts, surviving…
yeah so really um difficult thing that I hear parents of kids with special educational needs talking about which is a lot of their challenges might live behind closed doors you know you might have children who mask in school which is where they try to present as neurotypical and the stress of that builds up and they get home and then it all kind of explodes because they've been trying to cope in an environment day to day that's not suited to them and And the number of parents that then have challenges where they're just disbelieved, the issues that they're experiencing in the home are disbelieved and they're gaslit as a result.
They're told this, you know, your child's coping fine and I can't believe that they're doing that and everything's OK.
If the child seems to be coping, it doesn't mean that they actually are coping properly.
And then worse, that parents in that situation can then be blamed as if they're making it up and trying to wangle the system to get additional resources.
And that's where there's some terrible stuff in the media that kind of paints the picture of an increase in diagnoses as being pushy parents trying to get the best for their children.
And I mean, it's just obvious that the rise in diagnoses, obvious to me anyway, is not about people just thinking it's trendy to get a diagnosis of dyslexia or ADHD.
There's all sorts of reasons that are genuine that those diagnoses are on the rise, but it's quite easy to kind of point the finger and say, we don't really believe it because we don't see it.
And that kind of gaslighting can just make the difficulty of managing all the taboos that surround that issue and managing the parenting experience infinitely harder because the judgment of that is really kind of painful.
And then you're not getting the support that you need and that your child needs.
And they're just being fundamentally let down by the system.
And what we really wanted to do in this second part of the panel was hear, you've kind of presented you with the problems and the taboos.
But also just to talk a little bit about what needs to change and what we want to see change and what we can do about it.
So you don't go away so disheartened and you've got some things to do, some homework, some homework.
Go and look at Benji's channel.
So, yeah, what are the kind of things that you want to see change? What would help life be better for people experiencing these taboos?
yeah so really um difficult thing that I hear parents of kids with special educational needs talking about which is a lot of their challenges might live behind closed doors you know you might have children who mask in school which is where they try to present as neurotypical and the stress of that builds up and they get home and then it all kind of explodes because they've been trying to cope in an environment day to day that's not suited to them and And the number of parents that then have challenges where they're just disbelieved, the issues that they're experiencing in the home are disbelieved and they're gaslit as a result.
They're told this, you know, your child's coping fine and I can't believe that they're doing that and everything's OK.
If the child seems to be coping, it doesn't mean that they actually are coping properly.
And then worse, that parents in that situation can then be blamed as if they're making it up and trying to wangle the system to get additional resources.
And that's where there's some terrible stuff in the media that kind of paints the picture of an increase in diagnoses as being pushy parents trying to get the best for their children.
And I mean, it's just obvious that the rise in diagnoses, obvious to me anyway, is not about people just thinking it's trendy to get a diagnosis of dyslexia or ADHD.
There's all sorts of reasons that are genuine that those diagnoses are on the rise, but it's quite easy to kind of point the finger and say, we don't really believe it because we don't see it.
And that kind of gaslighting can just make the difficulty of managing all the taboos that surround that issue and managing the parenting experience infinitely harder because the judgment of that is really kind of painful.
And then you're not getting the support that you need and that your child needs.
And they're just being fundamentally let down by the system.
And what we really wanted to do in this second part of the panel was hear, you've kind of presented you with the problems and the taboos.
But also just to talk a little bit about what needs to change and what we want to see change and what we can do about it.
So you don't go away so disheartened and you've got some things to do, some homework, some homework.
Go and look at Benji's channel.
So, yeah, what are the kind of things that you want to see change? What would help life be better for people experiencing these taboos?
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