Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast
Sep 29, 2026 · 48 min · 15 segments
Parenting tension is often a marriage problem in disguise. Today on Couples Therapy, I’m joined by Landon and Lindsey who open up about the exact cycle that keeps blowing up their home. They’ve been…
Seven, three, and eight months.
four years apart and then three years apart.
And now with the third, we're very aware that we are outnumbered and it's a lot.
We were already even struggling a little bit.
We've been struggling just in parenthood and kind of getting aligned.
Outside of the moments, we can really talk about it and get aligned.
But then in the stress... of the moment um basically he tends to revert to an authoritarian um style and i tend to veer more permissive based on how we were parented and then um that we don't like that i don't it makes me really angry when he's more authoritarian and he gets really upset by my permissiveness and Because it
feels like everything in my body and my mind is telling me to act and to do something.
And it feels like an action when I know it's not necessarily.
And I get really triggered by the authoritarian, like, whoa.
And then I feel like I have to protect them.
And then he feels like I'm undermining him.
It's like...
Yeah, it is a cycle and we recognize it and we know it's happening and then it's just so difficult to stop it when we get in those.
Seven, three, and eight months.
four years apart and then three years apart.
And now with the third, we're very aware that we are outnumbered and it's a lot.
We were already even struggling a little bit.
We've been struggling just in parenthood and kind of getting aligned.
Outside of the moments, we can really talk about it and get aligned.
But then in the stress... of the moment um basically he tends to revert to an authoritarian um style and i tend to veer more permissive based on how we were parented and then um that we don't like that i don't it makes me really angry when he's more authoritarian and he gets really upset by my permissiveness and Because it
feels like everything in my body and my mind is telling me to act and to do something.
And it feels like an action when I know it's not necessarily.
And I get really triggered by the authoritarian, like, whoa.
And then I feel like I have to protect them.
And then he feels like I'm undermining him.
It's like...
Yeah, it is a cycle and we recognize it and we know it's happening and then it's just so difficult to stop it when we get in those.
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