Jul 29, 2026 · 29 min · 9 segments
He does oral sex almost every time. Toys every time. Bondage, spanking, dirty talk — all things he pushed through because she wanted them. She agreed to reciprocate. She hasn't. Not once. So is he…
So first off, "I've been listening," this is from a husband, "for a couple years, and I've learned a lot and incorporated a lot from the topics you've discussed.
I was addicted to porn, and I also had other forms of abuse when I was younger too.
I've c- we've both grown through our problems, and we now serve in a church on a regular basis, and we also help couples with their marital issues.
I'd say we have a pretty decent and frequent sex life, but I struggle with an issue.
Since we've been married, I might receive it once or twice a year," and this is interesting, "if I force it through bondage play, but it's something that frustrates me, and I don't know if I should be frustrated or if I should just let it go.
She says she doesn't like to do it, and she doesn't want to do it even though I try to suggest it's not about her pleasure, but rather it's about my pleasure, and I'd like to see that she would like to do something to please me.
Before I sound horrible, I do wanna say that I perform oral sex on my wife almost every time we have sex.
Not only that, we've worked through issues of using toys to give her orgasms so that we use one every time during sex as well because I want her to be pleased, and it makes me pleased to do that.
Not to mention, she's the one that wanted to try the bondage, the spanking, the dirty talk, and the toys, which has been uncomfortable and difficult to do, but I got over my discomforts because I love pleasuring my wife.
Dirty talk was even brought up as a promise that I would receive more oral sex with every time I used or said something, but she's neglected to even make good on that one- even once.
I don't necessarily need to come, but I would love her to fondle, stroke, lick, suck, use toys, whatever, but she almost refuses to do so because she just doesn't like to.
Honestly, we've talked about this multiple times, and nothing seems to make her understand that I would love to just feel loved by her doing something that pleases me without having to always do everything she desires.
I guess what I'm asking is, am I being selfish or for not, or not wanting my wife to do these things when I know she doesn't exactly like to do them? I'm looking for guidance so I don't become resentful of always trying new things for her while getting nothing in return, but only once a year.
Thanks so much for what you do all the time, and I know that you'll be w- the answers you're gonna give me, so thank you." So here we go.
So first off, "I've been listening," this is from a husband, "for a couple years, and I've learned a lot and incorporated a lot from the topics you've discussed.
I was addicted to porn, and I also had other forms of abuse when I was younger too.
I've c- we've both grown through our problems, and we now serve in a church on a regular basis, and we also help couples with their marital issues.
I'd say we have a pretty decent and frequent sex life, but I struggle with an issue.
Since we've been married, I might receive it once or twice a year," and this is interesting, "if I force it through bondage play, but it's something that frustrates me, and I don't know if I should be frustrated or if I should just let it go.
She says she doesn't like to do it, and she doesn't want to do it even though I try to suggest it's not about her pleasure, but rather it's about my pleasure, and I'd like to see that she would like to do something to please me.
Before I sound horrible, I do wanna say that I perform oral sex on my wife almost every time we have sex.
Not only that, we've worked through issues of using toys to give her orgasms so that we use one every time during sex as well because I want her to be pleased, and it makes me pleased to do that.
Not to mention, she's the one that wanted to try the bondage, the spanking, the dirty talk, and the toys, which has been uncomfortable and difficult to do, but I got over my discomforts because I love pleasuring my wife.
Dirty talk was even brought up as a promise that I would receive more oral sex with every time I used or said something, but she's neglected to even make good on that one- even once.
I don't necessarily need to come, but I would love her to fondle, stroke, lick, suck, use toys, whatever, but she almost refuses to do so because she just doesn't like to.
Honestly, we've talked about this multiple times, and nothing seems to make her understand that I would love to just feel loved by her doing something that pleases me without having to always do everything she desires.
I guess what I'm asking is, am I being selfish or for not, or not wanting my wife to do these things when I know she doesn't exactly like to do them? I'm looking for guidance so I don't become resentful of always trying new things for her while getting nothing in return, but only once a year.
Thanks so much for what you do all the time, and I know that you'll be w- the answers you're gonna give me, so thank you." So here we go.
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