Ep. 114 The Worst Advice We Ever Received and Why You Should Stop Living by Other People’s Limits

And ironically, today, we would love to give you a very large reality check.

This is a topic that Jess and I have been texting about recently, and I think it's so, so incredibly valuable.

And we're actually doing a book club within our community on the book, The Big Leap.

And it's a really cool concept about your own limiting beliefs based on your life experience and generally how you were raised, right? What your parents' worldviews are.

And this is just kind of some examples of advice we were given when we were younger.

But the whole concept is that people often give advice based on the limitations that they've experienced or the way they perceive the world.

And I watched a video recently and I shared it with Jess because I thought it was so cool.

Especially because her and my husband are very similar, very disgustingly similar in their people-pleasing tendencies, where they often will sacrifice their own peace, happiness, moving forward in life to please someone else, right?

Or take it very personally if somebody disagrees or doesn't understand, doesn't... see the reality of our like i don't know if somebody makes a judgment and that judgment's inaccurate i feel the need to justify or explain it to them and jill shared this with me and i thought it's wonderful so go on

so it was um you know generally when we talk about like being in the one percent right it's being more successful more rich more whatever right

We're not just talking about financial success here, right? We're talking about anything.

If you want to be the happiest person, if you want to be the healthiest person, if you want to be whatever, if you want to be the 1% or if you want to be in the top tier of whatever that looks like, that means like 99% of people probably are going to disagree with you or at least not understand.

Yes.

They're not going to understand your moves, your actions, the way you show up, the way you behave.

And it's funny because, Like, even on my social media, which we did an episode about last week, people will comment and be like, you're so snotty, or you think this because blah, blah, blah, or this is such a stupid perspective.

And I just laugh because I think it's so funny how crystal clear it is to watch people project their own limitations and their own insecurities.

And actually, I didn't even think about this, Jess, and I hope she listens to this someday even.

And ironically, today, we would love to give you a very large reality check.

This is a topic that Jess and I have been texting about recently, and I think it's so, so incredibly valuable.

And we're actually doing a book club within our community on the book, The Big Leap.

And it's a really cool concept about your own limiting beliefs based on your life experience and generally how you were raised, right? What your parents' worldviews are.

And this is just kind of some examples of advice we were given when we were younger.

But the whole concept is that people often give advice based on the limitations that they've experienced or the way they perceive the world.

And I watched a video recently and I shared it with Jess because I thought it was so cool.

Especially because her and my husband are very similar, very disgustingly similar in their people-pleasing tendencies, where they often will sacrifice their own peace, happiness, moving forward in life to please someone else, right?

Or take it very personally if somebody disagrees or doesn't understand, doesn't... see the reality of our like i don't know if somebody makes a judgment and that judgment's inaccurate i feel the need to justify or explain it to them and jill shared this with me and i thought it's wonderful so go on

so it was um you know generally when we talk about like being in the one percent right it's being more successful more rich more whatever right

We're not just talking about financial success here, right? We're talking about anything.

If you want to be the happiest person, if you want to be the healthiest person, if you want to be whatever, if you want to be the 1% or if you want to be in the top tier of whatever that looks like, that means like 99% of people probably are going to disagree with you or at least not understand.

Yes.

They're not going to understand your moves, your actions, the way you show up, the way you behave.

And it's funny because, Like, even on my social media, which we did an episode about last week, people will comment and be like, you're so snotty, or you think this because blah, blah, blah, or this is such a stupid perspective.

And I just laugh because I think it's so funny how crystal clear it is to watch people project their own limitations and their own insecurities.

And actually, I didn't even think about this, Jess, and I hope she listens to this someday even.