617: Can Your Marriage Survive Alcoholism? (Maybe Not?)

So if you have this situation going on in your life, we're covering five, at least takeaways that we want you to have when it comes to dealing with situations like this, because a lot of times spouses don't know what to do and they tend to just stick their head in the sand and hope that everything's going to go away when in fact it's not.

And it's just going to get substantially worse over time.

Well, what differentiates it from like normal interventions and getting involved is the fact that there's different parameters that can't be controlled.

For instance, like if you're dealing with a spouse and not a dependent, you can't necessarily have boundaries that work with dependents necessarily.

work for a husband also, you know what I mean? Like where, for instance, if, if you're the one providing a roof, over your son or daughter's head, if you're providing them with their car, if you're the one feeding them, all the above, you can start pulling back slowly but surely to make their addiction, their alcoholism more uncomfortable and have them come to light like, hey, this isn't working.

But what do you do when you're married to somebody, you're both on the mortgage, maybe the husband, we'll just say in this scenario, maybe the husband is... you know, the, the quote unquote breadwinner and the wife stayed at home, take, takes care of the kids or did take care of the kids, whatever that looks like, you know, maybe the majority of the income comes from the husband.

There's all different kinds of scenarios there.

Um, but the approach sometimes has to be a little bit different approach as far as like the details go, the principles all remain the same.

The principles never change when doing an intervention.

Yeah.

However, the details may vary when it's a spouse and not a dependent.

Yeah.

So let's just jump right into this.

So if you have this situation going on in your life, we're covering five, at least takeaways that we want you to have when it comes to dealing with situations like this, because a lot of times spouses don't know what to do and they tend to just stick their head in the sand and hope that everything's going to go away when in fact it's not.

And it's just going to get substantially worse over time.

Well, what differentiates it from like normal interventions and getting involved is the fact that there's different parameters that can't be controlled.

For instance, like if you're dealing with a spouse and not a dependent, you can't necessarily have boundaries that work with dependents necessarily.

work for a husband also, you know what I mean? Like where, for instance, if, if you're the one providing a roof, over your son or daughter's head, if you're providing them with their car, if you're the one feeding them, all the above, you can start pulling back slowly but surely to make their addiction, their alcoholism more uncomfortable and have them come to light like, hey, this isn't working.

But what do you do when you're married to somebody, you're both on the mortgage, maybe the husband, we'll just say in this scenario, maybe the husband is... you know, the, the quote unquote breadwinner and the wife stayed at home, take, takes care of the kids or did take care of the kids, whatever that looks like, you know, maybe the majority of the income comes from the husband.

There's all different kinds of scenarios there.

Um, but the approach sometimes has to be a little bit different approach as far as like the details go, the principles all remain the same.

The principles never change when doing an intervention.

Yeah.

However, the details may vary when it's a spouse and not a dependent.

Yeah.

So let's just jump right into this.