Proof of Life with Preston Rakovsky
the only question you have to ask to get over someone
Sep 30, 2026 · 22 min · 8 segments
Proof of Life with Preston Rakovsky
Sep 30, 2026 · 22 min · 8 segments
Preston RakovskyHost
And I guess I have a lot of questions to kind of help understand what that looked like for you and how you started to get over
it.
Yeah, it was hard.
I think what was hard was I kept reliving the moments and thinking that there could have been something more i would revisit our memories and just be so upset that there couldn't be more of them and that we couldn't have the future that i wanted to have and i think that was the hardest part to come to terms with of like the the it's like a dream that was never going to come true
can you talk to me about that for a second what do you mean about living with the potential
i think it felt like You kept wanting it to be something that it wasn't.
And I think getting over someone to me means accepting for something for what it was and not what it'll never be.
Accepting that something is what it was and not... what it could have been.
How do you distinguish that? Because I think oftentimes when we get in these relationships and I know like in the past, I've made this mistake a million times where I just like, I can't untangle the potential from what actually happened.
like,
oh my God, I know if you gave me two more months, we were going to be perfect.
And that's the thing is like, we had such a perfect time.
And I think the most important thing is accepting that that's a memory.
It was a moment in time, but it's not your future.
And I think...
the process of like me getting over this person was me continuing to like revisit the archives of our memories and being like so sad but like being stuck in them like ruminating in them and like making that my entire present but the reality is that it was in the past it was never the future and i feel like getting over someone is more about being able to leave those memories in the archives letting them be where they are and you being able to move elsewhere
That kind of brings you to my first question, actually, which is what do you think it would still be like if you two were still together?
I think it would be a lot of the same.
And I guess I have a lot of questions to kind of help understand what that looked like for you and how you started to get over
it.
Yeah, it was hard.
I think what was hard was I kept reliving the moments and thinking that there could have been something more i would revisit our memories and just be so upset that there couldn't be more of them and that we couldn't have the future that i wanted to have and i think that was the hardest part to come to terms with of like the the it's like a dream that was never going to come true
can you talk to me about that for a second what do you mean about living with the potential
i think it felt like You kept wanting it to be something that it wasn't.
And I think getting over someone to me means accepting for something for what it was and not what it'll never be.
Accepting that something is what it was and not... what it could have been.
How do you distinguish that? Because I think oftentimes when we get in these relationships and I know like in the past, I've made this mistake a million times where I just like, I can't untangle the potential from what actually happened.
like,
oh my God, I know if you gave me two more months, we were going to be perfect.
And that's the thing is like, we had such a perfect time.
And I think the most important thing is accepting that that's a memory.
It was a moment in time, but it's not your future.
And I think...
the process of like me getting over this person was me continuing to like revisit the archives of our memories and being like so sad but like being stuck in them like ruminating in them and like making that my entire present but the reality is that it was in the past it was never the future and i feel like getting over someone is more about being able to leave those memories in the archives letting them be where they are and you being able to move elsewhere
That kind of brings you to my first question, actually, which is what do you think it would still be like if you two were still together?
I think it would be a lot of the same.
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