Safewords & Traffic Light System Explained - Consent in BDSM | Power Unleashed EP 36

Hello, boys and girls.

One of my submissives recently told me an interesting story about their kin community where during the scene safe word is treated merely as information for the dominant that the submissive wants to stop and it is then left to the dominant's discretion whether to stop or to continue.

To be honest, I was absolutely shocked when I heard this story, and I was not surprised at all to learn that my submissive had witnessed people being hospitalized after scenes within this community.

I mean, it's no wonder people can get severe injuries if safe word literally means nothing.

I always emphasize that consent that is not only given willingly and enthusiastically, but can also be revoked at any moment.

This concept is already built into very definition of BDSM.

Without consent, that person can withdraw at any time.

This is not BDSM.

It is abuse, no matter how you frame it.

This particular community argues that everyone is informed about these rules in advance and therefore participates willingly.

But I still consider these practices ethically very questionable, and from a legal standpoint, they may also be putting themselves in an extremely dangerous position, depending on the local law and what actually happens during the scene.

So today, let's talk once again about safe words and how to use them.

I will also introduce you to the traffic light system, explain the difference between the two and discuss how not to end up in the ER if you are submissive or in jail if you are a dom.

This is Power Unleashed and I am your kinky professor Vesper, guiding you through the art of female domination and allure of female-led relationship.

With my wicked mind and velvet voice, I will unravel your desires.

Do you consent to my control? First of all, my usual disclaimer.

This is how I personally understand and use these concepts.

I am aware of communities, individuals, and kink educators who define safe words and the traffic light system completely differently.

The example I described earlier is obviously quite extreme, but I have also seen the system overcomplicated in the opposite direction with not only traffic lights and a safe word, but also an additional safe word specifically for emergencies.

I have also encountered communities that do not use traffic light system at all and rely only on the safe word.

So as always, Learn the rules of the people you are interacting with.

Whether you are attending a kinky event, entering a relationship with a particular dominant or submissive, or just playing with a kinkster, you need to make sure that you are on the same page about how these systems are used.

before any kinky activity begins.