343: Divorce: What Parents Do Wrong

Divorce: What parents do wrong! Is your divorce hurting your kids more than it needs to? Divorce is undeniably one of the hardest transitions a family can face, but the real damage often doesn't come from the split itself—it comes from the mistakes parents make during the process. In this episode of The Impactful Parent, host Kristina Campos sits down with Nicole Sodoma, a veteran divorce attorney and author of "Please Don't Say You're Sorry," to uncover the "blind spots" that even the most well-meaning parents have. If you’ve ever felt the heavy weight of "failed family guilt" or struggled to navigate a high-conflict relationship with your ex, this conversation is for you. We dive deep into the practical tools and mindset shifts required to protect your children’s emotional well-being and ensure they thrive in their new normal. In this episode, you’ll learn: The Messenger Mistake: Why using your kids as conduits for information (even simple things like pickup times) is toxic for their sense of safety. The "Disney Parent" Trap: The long-term dangers of abandoning household rules out of guilt and how dads can move from "babysitter" to empowered, equal parents. Public Persona Pitfalls: Why your "harmless" social media posts might be used as evidence against you or—worse—be misinterpreted by your children. Sharing the Front Lines: Strategic advice for handling graduations, school plays, and sporting events when you have to see your ex. The Future-Proof Parenting Plan: Two critical clauses you need to include in your legal documents today that you will thank yourself for five years from now. Nicole also shares her "impactful parent" boundary: the power of the pause. Learn why you are never required to respond to a high-conflict text or email in real-time and how taking back control of your response time can change your life. About Our Guest: Nicole Sodoma is the founder of Sodoma Law and a sought-after source on all things divorce. Her book, Please Don't Say You're Sorry, helps readers navigate the challenges of divorce with insight, humor, and relatability.   Rate, Review, & Subscribe! "I love Kristina and all the FREE tips that she has to offer!  Thank you for making my parenting journey better!"  <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you!!! Rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, subscribe to the podcast. I'm adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the feed and, if you're not subscribed, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Subscribe now!   What to do next: 1. Get The Impactful Parent App! Everything you need in your parenting journey in one spot! Available on the Android Play Store and the Apple Store. Search Impactful Parent (direct links listed above under Links in Episode). 2. Follow The Impactful Parenton social media if you don’t already! Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, & Pinterest 3. Subscribe to the PODCAST 4. Check out the official website of The Impactful Parent for FREE RESOURCES, parenting classes, mom’s groups, and so much more! Click here to check it out! 5. Discover how you can work with Kristina!  Sign up for a FREE 30-minute discovery call! Click here to find a time that works best for you! Bottom Line... I am here for YOU!  Contact me at [theimpactfulparent@gmail.com](mailto:theimpactfulparent@gmail.com)