Who Decided You Were Behind?

Who decided I was behind? If you've ever looked around and thought... *"Everyone else seems further ahead than me."* This episode is for you. This week, I'm unpacking something I've been quietly carrying myself: the feeling that somehow I'm behind. Behind financially. Behind professionally. Behind compared to everyone else who seems to have life figured out. But after an honest conversation with my sister about saving for our kids' college—and realizing the story I'd been telling myself wasn't even true—I started asking a different question: **Who decided I was behind in the first place?** In this episode, we talk about the invisible timeline so many of us are measuring ourselves against, why comparison is usually based on stories we've created, and why what feels like failure is often grief for the life we imagined we'd have by now. We talk about: - Why so many women feel like they're "behind" in midlife - The invisible timeline we've inherited without realizing it - The vulnerable conversation I had about college savings and the assumptions I was making - Why comparison is almost always based on incomplete information - The difference between failure and grief - Learning to stop measuring your life against someone else's highlight reel - A simple question to ask the next time comparison creeps in A question to take with you: The next time you catch yourself thinking someone else is further ahead... Ask yourself: **"Do I actually know that's true?"** Because maybe... You're not behind at all. Maybe you're exactly where you're meant to be. **If this episode resonated with you**, I'd love to hear from you. Come find me on Instagram and tell me: **When have you felt "behind"... only to realize you were comparing yourself to a story you'd made up?** And if you know another woman who needs this reminder today, send her this episode. Because none of us were meant to carry midlife alone. Ready to stop circling the thing you can't stop thinking about? Take the free Not Done Yet Spark and discover your next step. www.rachelaperry.com/spark