Kate Silverton: The parenthood preparation gap, why asking for help feels so hard and the lizard, baboon and wise owl (every parent needs to know about them)

And I was going to ask you, how are you doing today? But I know for a fact that things are a little bit hectic in your household.

So I really do mean it.

How are you doing today? Do

you know what? Well, let's just, I'm going to practice what I preach and just do a little bit of self-regulation, a bit of self-soothing, because we've got obviously the school holidays, obviously.

So that creates its own element of overwhelm.

And then if you try to work within that, as many of us will know, another layer, and then a little bit of building work going on and a ceiling collapse.

And, you know, the wheels can threaten to fall off, but I'm having to use all of my self-regulation to bring myself back, deal with all of that and come and sit with you.

So it's all good, but this is, I know we're going to talk about emotional regulation.

So I hope I'm going to present myself in a regulated way and demonstrate what can be done.

It's like the universe

is going to throw all of this at you to really test you.

Yes, exactly.

Yeah.

You reckon? You reckon you're good at this? Let's see what you can handle, Silverton.

Oh, my goodness.

Well, hopefully this will just be a lovely little chat and it will help you to regulate yourself and it's all good.

You are my

oasis of calm right now.

You see, whatever's going on out there, no, it doesn't matter.

It's all about you.

So that's lovely.

Just having a nice little chat.

And I was going to ask you, how are you doing today? But I know for a fact that things are a little bit hectic in your household.

So I really do mean it.

How are you doing today? Do

you know what? Well, let's just, I'm going to practice what I preach and just do a little bit of self-regulation, a bit of self-soothing, because we've got obviously the school holidays, obviously.

So that creates its own element of overwhelm.

And then if you try to work within that, as many of us will know, another layer, and then a little bit of building work going on and a ceiling collapse.

And, you know, the wheels can threaten to fall off, but I'm having to use all of my self-regulation to bring myself back, deal with all of that and come and sit with you.

So it's all good, but this is, I know we're going to talk about emotional regulation.

So I hope I'm going to present myself in a regulated way and demonstrate what can be done.

It's like the universe

is going to throw all of this at you to really test you.

Yes, exactly.

Yeah.

You reckon? You reckon you're good at this? Let's see what you can handle, Silverton.

Oh, my goodness.

Well, hopefully this will just be a lovely little chat and it will help you to regulate yourself and it's all good.

You are my

oasis of calm right now.

You see, whatever's going on out there, no, it doesn't matter.

It's all about you.

So that's lovely.

Just having a nice little chat.