The Perfect Latch Fantasy: Breastfeeding Expectations vs Reality

What moms hope breastfeeding will be like often doesn’t match what really happens. This can leave some moms feeling discouraged or unsure of themselves. So how can moms set realistic expectations for breastfeeding? In this episode of *Momcozy Village: Together We Grow*, Natalie Gouché talks with Nicki Davis. Nicki, known as The Baby Whisperer, is a lactation consultant who has spent 20 years helping moms and babies learn to breastfeed with confidence and calm. Nicki believes many moms think that because breastfeeding is ‘natural,’ it should be easy, but that’s not always true. She also reminds moms that every new baby is a new learning experience for both mom and child. Nicki suggests starting fresh with each baby, since you're both learning together. This way, moms can celebrate small successes and keep their expectations realistic. In Nicki’s experience, most moms don’t think much about breastfeeding until they start. She recommends joining a breastfeeding support group once the baby arrives. Getting to know the group ahead of time means you’ll have support when you need it most. A consultant can ensure you have support during this sometimes challenging period in your baby's development. She also reminds moms that breastfeeding will look different at different stages of your baby’s development. The time they comfort-breastfeed is short, so enjoy it. **Episode Highlights** **02:02** – The myth of breastfeeding coming naturally — especially with multiple kids. **05:21** – Breastfeeding myths that harm expectations. **09:19** –  What's the difference between hospital lactation consultants and private ones? **11:08** –  Moms spend zero time getting prenatal breastfeeding advice.  **12:39** –  What's the first step in looking for a lactation consultant?  **14:39** – Babies change quickly, and so do their breastfeeding habits. **16:53** – How do family members impact breastfeeding expectations? **18:35 –** The mental load of breastfeeding. **22:49 –** Breastfeeding isn’t all or nothing. **About the Guest: Nicki Davis** Nicki Davis is known as the Baby Whisperer. She’s a registered nurse, lactation consultant, and proud mom of four kids. With over 20 years of experience working with moms and babies, Nicki has learned that every feeding journey is as unique as the little one in your arms. Her passion for breastfeeding started with her own children. Those early moments of learning to nurse inspired her to help other families find their rhythm too. Nicki combines her nursing background with her experience as a mom to support you at every stage, from pregnancy to late-night feeds and everything in between. Her goal is to help you feel confident, supported, and empowered in your breastfeeding journey. **Connect With Us** **Momcozy** Website | Facebook | YouTube | Instagram **Nicki Davis** Website |https://www.facebook.com/momcozySpill the Milk Podcast **About the Podcast: *Momcozy Village – Together We Grow*** *Momcozy Village: Together We Grow* is a podcast where moms gather to learn, share, and support each other. Hosted by Natalie Gouché, each episode features inspiring conversations on motherhood: from career transitions to mental health and beyond. Backed by Momcozy, makers of innovative wearable breast pumps and cozy nursing bras, the podcast is part of a movement to empower moms through every phase of early motherhood. **Enjoying the Show?**  Subscribe so you never miss an episode. If you’re enjoying the conversations, consider leaving us a 5-star review—it helps us grow the village and support more moms. Follow Koala Tots for more calming bedtime stories, or listen ad-free with bonus sleepy compilations on Koala Tots Plus  https://koalatots.supercast.com   Narrated by Abbe Opher Music by Sokratis Seirlis Instagram: @koalakids.fm