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Modern Anarchy

Modern Anarchy

270. The Wild Ride of Following Your Pleasure - Karen Yates

Jul 1, 2026 · 1 hr 9 min · 16 segments

On today’s episode, we have Karen (she/they) join us for a conversation about healing in relationships. Together we talk about actually feeling your trauma, the language of pleasure, and becoming…

On today’s episode, we have Karen (she/they) join us for a conversation about healing in relationships. Together we talk about actually feeling your trauma, the language of pleasure, and becoming present with yourself. 🔥**Pleasure Liberation: Non-Monogamy** ⁠https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-liberation-relationships-group⁠ 💙 Dr. Nicole on Wild and Sublime: https://wildandsublime.com/podcast/s7e3/ 🧡 **Download Free Pleasure-Based Worksheets and Tools Here**: [⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.modernanarchypodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠](%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0www.modernanarchypodcast.com%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0) 💙 Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🧡 Looking to work with Dr. Nicole? Learn More Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💙 Transcript: 🔥**Modern Anarchy Community**: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ :[⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.modernanarchypodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠]() ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Intro and Outro song: Wild wild woman by Your Smith **Karen's Community:** Website: ⁠https://karen-yates.com/

On today’s episode, we have Karen (she/they) join us for a conversation about healing in relationships. Together we talk about actually feeling your trauma, the language of pleasure, and becoming…

Speakers: Karen YatesGuestDr. NicoleHost

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Unique Libidos & Everyday Eroticism7:25 – 12:32

Karen YatesGuest

7:25

They're...

Karen YatesGuest

7:26

It's this kind of the same thing-

D

Dr. NicoleHost

7:28

Mm-hmm

Karen YatesGuest

7:28

...

Karen YatesGuest

7:28

the work I do.

D

Dr. NicoleHost

7:29

Mm-hmm.

Karen YatesGuest

7:29

Which is really help re-pattern people so that they can live more in flow.

D

Dr. NicoleHost

7:38

Yeah.

Karen YatesGuest

7:39

The, the big...

Karen YatesGuest

7:42

I'm not gonna say aha-

D

Dr. NicoleHost

7:44

Mm

Karen YatesGuest

7:45

...

Karen YatesGuest

7:45

but one of the bigger things that I'm coming into awareness in the past year...

Karen YatesGuest

7:49

And by the way, my voice is a little more gravelly because I have a cold.

D

Dr. NicoleHost

7:53

Mm.

Karen YatesGuest

7:54

Um, right now I'm getting over it.

D

Dr. NicoleHost

7:55

Yeah.

Karen YatesGuest

7:55

But what I realize is when I came into this work a number of years ago, so I really started delving into sexuality, I would say maybe eight or nine years ago.

Karen YatesGuest

8:08

I really thought that everybody was...

Karen YatesGuest

8:12

Well, I won't, I didn't think everyone is, was as sexual as me, or as highly sexual, you know? I, I knew I had a strong libido, and I knew that I enjoyed sex.

D

Dr. NicoleHost

8:20

Yeah.

D

Dr. NicoleHost

8:20

Mm-hmm.

Karen YatesGuest

8:22

But it was really more like if people aren't in that zone, or if they kind of put up their hands, they're like, "No, no, no," I kinda didn't accept it deep inside.

Karen YatesGuest

8:34

I'm like, "Really? Really? Come on.

Karen YatesGuest

8:38

Let's, let's work with each other, you know? Let's...

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Unique Libidos & Everyday Eroticism7:25 – 12:32

Karen YatesGuest

7:25

They're...

Karen YatesGuest

7:26

It's this kind of the same thing-

D

Dr. NicoleHost

7:28

Mm-hmm

Karen YatesGuest

7:28

...

Karen YatesGuest

7:28

the work I do.

D

Dr. NicoleHost

7:29

Mm-hmm.

Karen YatesGuest

7:29

Which is really help re-pattern people so that they can live more in flow.

D

Dr. NicoleHost

7:38

Yeah.

Karen YatesGuest

7:39

The, the big...

Karen YatesGuest

7:42

I'm not gonna say aha-

D

Dr. NicoleHost

7:44

Mm

Karen YatesGuest

7:45

...

Karen YatesGuest

7:45

but one of the bigger things that I'm coming into awareness in the past year...

Karen YatesGuest

7:49

And by the way, my voice is a little more gravelly because I have a cold.

D

Dr. NicoleHost

7:53

Mm.

Karen YatesGuest

7:54

Um, right now I'm getting over it.

D

Dr. NicoleHost

7:55

Yeah.

Karen YatesGuest

7:55

But what I realize is when I came into this work a number of years ago, so I really started delving into sexuality, I would say maybe eight or nine years ago.

Karen YatesGuest

8:08

I really thought that everybody was...

Karen YatesGuest

8:12

Well, I won't, I didn't think everyone is, was as sexual as me, or as highly sexual, you know? I, I knew I had a strong libido, and I knew that I enjoyed sex.

D

Dr. NicoleHost

8:20

Yeah.

D

Dr. NicoleHost

8:20

Mm-hmm.

Karen YatesGuest

8:22

But it was really more like if people aren't in that zone, or if they kind of put up their hands, they're like, "No, no, no," I kinda didn't accept it deep inside.

Karen YatesGuest

8:34

I'm like, "Really? Really? Come on.

Karen YatesGuest

8:38

Let's, let's work with each other, you know? Let's...

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