Sep 10, 2026 · 1 hr 7 min · 11 segments
Scott Mills joined The Brotherhood hoping to change the patterns that had created distance in his 35-year marriage. Weeks later, his wife Amy's cancer became terminal. What happened during the final…
Alex CharfenHostWe got married when she was 19 and I was 25 and had four kids kind of right off the bat.
We kind of lived through the blurry years where, you know, you're just, you know, you have four young kids, they're two years apart.
But then kind of once, and obviously we had our ups and downs during that time, but it always felt like It didn't feel like there was much in the way of problems in our relationship.
Most of our problems were our kids, like sorting out their problems and their schedules and their drama.
And we were, you know, I think kind of in a sense of a very model marriage relationship.
After the kids all were grown and flown and adults, I think that's kind of when the cracks started to show up.
And part of that was me... starting to realize that my childhood was really not as normal as I thought it was.
those who aren't familiar, it's, uh, ACE scores is like adverse childhood events like divorce or, um, trauma of any kind.
And it's a, a form that you fill out to tell you, um, how high a likelihood there is that you are still reacting to trauma from your childhood.
We got married when she was 19 and I was 25 and had four kids kind of right off the bat.
We kind of lived through the blurry years where, you know, you're just, you know, you have four young kids, they're two years apart.
But then kind of once, and obviously we had our ups and downs during that time, but it always felt like It didn't feel like there was much in the way of problems in our relationship.
Most of our problems were our kids, like sorting out their problems and their schedules and their drama.
And we were, you know, I think kind of in a sense of a very model marriage relationship.
After the kids all were grown and flown and adults, I think that's kind of when the cracks started to show up.
And part of that was me... starting to realize that my childhood was really not as normal as I thought it was.
those who aren't familiar, it's, uh, ACE scores is like adverse childhood events like divorce or, um, trauma of any kind.
And it's a, a form that you fill out to tell you, um, how high a likelihood there is that you are still reacting to trauma from your childhood.
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Zero Regret at Goodbye
After losing Amy, Scott describes what remains.
Love Without Resentment
During Amy’s final weeks, Scott found containment.
You Must Rescue Yourself
Many men still wait for someone else.
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