Jul 23, 2026 · 48 min · 12 segments
Most men think they need more confidence. What they actually need is more capacity. In this conversation, Alex sits down with Brotherhood member Moses Abu Darham to explore what happens when a man…
Alex CharfenHostYou repeat this often, like this is, this is like a martial art, and it's constant training and growth, and it doesn't, doesn't end, but it does continue expanding.
You know, when I look back at that period of my life, Moses, there's, [sighs] there's things that I have definitely spent so much time in forgiveness, self-forgiveness for, for things that I did, and, and I also have this impression.
I look back and I think, you know, "Who was I then to allow these things to happen?" And one of the things that I'm so conscious of is how much of my capacity and my energy was leaking out all over the place.
Um, first of all, that's, that, that was one of the most mind-blowing things I learned from you.
I'd never seen it that way, and I've told a lot of my, my friends this, like when...
If you think about, like, sexuality, it's like you have X amount, and you're letting it go to like, "Oh, I, I looked at that woman," or, "I looked at porn," or this.
So number one, you don't have it for your partner, and you don't have energy, creative energy, for anything else.
So when you look back at that period of time where you were leaking sexual energy and leaking capacity, as a father, I mean, I, I did this too as a father.
You repeat this often, like this is, this is like a martial art, and it's constant training and growth, and it doesn't, doesn't end, but it does continue expanding.
You know, when I look back at that period of my life, Moses, there's, [sighs] there's things that I have definitely spent so much time in forgiveness, self-forgiveness for, for things that I did, and, and I also have this impression.
I look back and I think, you know, "Who was I then to allow these things to happen?" And one of the things that I'm so conscious of is how much of my capacity and my energy was leaking out all over the place.
Um, first of all, that's, that, that was one of the most mind-blowing things I learned from you.
I'd never seen it that way, and I've told a lot of my, my friends this, like when...
If you think about, like, sexuality, it's like you have X amount, and you're letting it go to like, "Oh, I, I looked at that woman," or, "I looked at porn," or this.
So number one, you don't have it for your partner, and you don't have energy, creative energy, for anything else.
So when you look back at that period of time where you were leaking sexual energy and leaking capacity, as a father, I mean, I, I did this too as a father.
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