Is Higher Education a Waste If You Want Marriage? Busting the Myth That Women Can’t Have Both

So needless to say, that raised a lot of controversy.

And, you know, you can probably feel your own blood boiling, right, upon hearing this from me, too, right? So this guy is like a middle-aged male professor, right? And so...

People obviously think that it's a very misogynistic view and really outdated, backward gender norms he has, and they're really in shock for a professor for perpetuating this in the public eye.

So people comment that someone of his stature should not be saying these things in front of 1,400 students.

Yeah, so obviously, well, like a lot of people, I would disagree with what he says, especially if I am someone who was in academia, who was, well, who is highly educated, who has a PhD.

So basically, I resemble all the things he said that shouldn't be done.

And, you know, obviously, it wasn't cost effective for me in his eyes that I should say, have wasted, quote unquote, all of my years in high education instead of finding a partner earlier.

So it's like, well, in this era, who says these things? But well, he argued that he's trying to make an economic statement and not really like a sociological statement, or he's not trying to be biased or anything, and he doesn't discriminate.

And he says that it applies for men as well, like men can also marry well, and it's probably... much more cost effective if they spent more time and money pursuing like a rich woman instead of, you know, working their ass off probably.

So, you know, he's trying to argue that it goes for both genders, but the people are not buying it.

Yeah, so there are probably three reasons why I would disagree with this.

I rationally dissected what he said, and then I tried to come up with three main reasons why I would disagree.

Yeah, so first of all, you know, I would think, number one, like, why say it in front of an auditorium of 1,400 students, of which half are female university students? Because nowadays, in most parts of the world, in many advanced countries, there are more women university students enrolled than men.

And so you basically... pissed off like 700 students right there in the hall.

And why say that in front of people that are currently pursuing a university education? Obviously, people who you say are wasting their time, right? So what do you expect them to do, like get up and leave? So I'm just thinking, if I were sitting there in his hall listening to a speech like being like a university student, I would just get up and leave or boo or crash the stage or something because it's like really weird, you know, sitting there listening to someone saying that I'm wasting my time right now being here.

And instead, I should be in finishing school, probably learning social etiquette, learning how to dress well, eat well, talk well, learning how to use a fork and knife like my fair lady, right? Learning diction, you know, the art of speech, instead of sitting there, you know, pursuing knowledge.

So that's really controversial, that he would choose that spot to talk about a statement that's related to the people there.

That would definitely offend them.

And so one space that I can think of that he could make his big speech was in a cigar den full of I don't know, bankers or like burly macho men thumping each other on the back and congratulating each other.

And I don't know, like in the Wolf of Wall Street or something.

I think that would be a much better place for him to talk about a speech like that.

Right.

Wouldn't you think? So obviously he wouldn't be offending anyone and they would share the same values.

Yeah, so much better speech there, much more appropriate space than in a university full of female university students who have a quest for knowledge.

Oh, and I can also think of another alternative space for him to make his speech.

So needless to say, that raised a lot of controversy.

And, you know, you can probably feel your own blood boiling, right, upon hearing this from me, too, right? So this guy is like a middle-aged male professor, right? And so...

People obviously think that it's a very misogynistic view and really outdated, backward gender norms he has, and they're really in shock for a professor for perpetuating this in the public eye.

So people comment that someone of his stature should not be saying these things in front of 1,400 students.

Yeah, so obviously, well, like a lot of people, I would disagree with what he says, especially if I am someone who was in academia, who was, well, who is highly educated, who has a PhD.

So basically, I resemble all the things he said that shouldn't be done.

And, you know, obviously, it wasn't cost effective for me in his eyes that I should say, have wasted, quote unquote, all of my years in high education instead of finding a partner earlier.

So it's like, well, in this era, who says these things? But well, he argued that he's trying to make an economic statement and not really like a sociological statement, or he's not trying to be biased or anything, and he doesn't discriminate.

And he says that it applies for men as well, like men can also marry well, and it's probably... much more cost effective if they spent more time and money pursuing like a rich woman instead of, you know, working their ass off probably.

So, you know, he's trying to argue that it goes for both genders, but the people are not buying it.

Yeah, so there are probably three reasons why I would disagree with this.

I rationally dissected what he said, and then I tried to come up with three main reasons why I would disagree.

Yeah, so first of all, you know, I would think, number one, like, why say it in front of an auditorium of 1,400 students, of which half are female university students? Because nowadays, in most parts of the world, in many advanced countries, there are more women university students enrolled than men.

And so you basically... pissed off like 700 students right there in the hall.

And why say that in front of people that are currently pursuing a university education? Obviously, people who you say are wasting their time, right? So what do you expect them to do, like get up and leave? So I'm just thinking, if I were sitting there in his hall listening to a speech like being like a university student, I would just get up and leave or boo or crash the stage or something because it's like really weird, you know, sitting there listening to someone saying that I'm wasting my time right now being here.

And instead, I should be in finishing school, probably learning social etiquette, learning how to dress well, eat well, talk well, learning how to use a fork and knife like my fair lady, right? Learning diction, you know, the art of speech, instead of sitting there, you know, pursuing knowledge.

So that's really controversial, that he would choose that spot to talk about a statement that's related to the people there.

That would definitely offend them.

And so one space that I can think of that he could make his big speech was in a cigar den full of I don't know, bankers or like burly macho men thumping each other on the back and congratulating each other.

And I don't know, like in the Wolf of Wall Street or something.

I think that would be a much better place for him to talk about a speech like that.

Right.

Wouldn't you think? So obviously he wouldn't be offending anyone and they would share the same values.

Yeah, so much better speech there, much more appropriate space than in a university full of female university students who have a quest for knowledge.

Oh, and I can also think of another alternative space for him to make his speech.