263. When Your Relationship Feels Hard

So what I want to talk to you today is about what to do when love

feels hard.

And what I'm talking about with that topic is when we're in a high cycle, a high love cycle with our partner, when we're feeling really connected, I think love is easy.

We get along.

We're probably having a lot of sex.

The little things don't bother us as much.

We can work through issues and problems like we're on a roll.

And then eventually for me, my partner, it's like about every three to four months, something like that.

We start to slide into like a little bit of a low cycle.

And that's when I feel like love gets hard.

So I want to talk to you a little bit about that today and how to help you through that low cycle so that you can get back to the good stuff, but also so you're not judging it and you can see it as part of a relationship.

When we're in a good spot with our partner, it can last, for me and my relationship, it And like I said, we're getting along.

Things are going great.

Little things don't bother me.

I'm not as on edge.

I'm not as like, you know, in kind of counting.

I was called counting like insecure attachment.

Like I'm not doing math.

I'm not doing like he texted me three times.

So now I've, you know, I want to make sure that I'm only texting him as many times as he's texting me or he did the dishes four times this week.

So I want to make sure that I'm doing unloading the dishwasher four times this week.

We're in math.

We're trying to make it all equal.

But when we're in this high value cycle, what we're doing is we're just loving on each other.

And I love these cycles.