I Don't Want Kids. She Really, Really Did.

But I'm wondering, because we're going to talk today about being a parent by choice versus choosing to not be a parent.

And I guess kind of thinking about this origin thing.

connecting it to the origin story did you always know that you wanted to be a parent like was this just something you always wanted

that is a complicated question because

there's

Yes and no.

Because I grew up and this is another kind of funny thing about us being such good friends for so long is that our backgrounds were very different at

the time.

So I grew up in a very kind of conservative religious family.

And so that colored a lot of my perception of the world and what was expected of me.

And so I had an idea of what life would eventually look like.

And motherhood was always kind of a given with that.

And then even later in life, when I got married, and my siblings were having children, I still felt like it was always going to be a given.

And my husband and I decided when we got married that we were, cause we were relatively young.

We weren't as young as you were when you got married, but the, um, so I was 24 and he was 26 or 27.

And we knew based on me wanting to go to school for a little bit longer and everything, we knew that we would, we were going to give it six years of us just being married.

That's what we like told ourselves.

Um, so the plan was after six years, then we would start a family.

Um, And a lot of that was from looking around at the people that we knew and how old they were and what made sense for us.

And, you know, in my mind, I was 24.

So in six years, I was going to be 30.

And that sounded about right.

Would give me a chance to go to school and finish the schooling that I needed to do and then work

for a couple of years before I had

a kid.

But I'm wondering, because we're going to talk today about being a parent by choice versus choosing to not be a parent.

And I guess kind of thinking about this origin thing.

connecting it to the origin story did you always know that you wanted to be a parent like was this just something you always wanted

that is a complicated question because

there's

Yes and no.

Because I grew up and this is another kind of funny thing about us being such good friends for so long is that our backgrounds were very different at

the time.

So I grew up in a very kind of conservative religious family.

And so that colored a lot of my perception of the world and what was expected of me.

And so I had an idea of what life would eventually look like.

And motherhood was always kind of a given with that.

And then even later in life, when I got married, and my siblings were having children, I still felt like it was always going to be a given.

And my husband and I decided when we got married that we were, cause we were relatively young.

We weren't as young as you were when you got married, but the, um, so I was 24 and he was 26 or 27.

And we knew based on me wanting to go to school for a little bit longer and everything, we knew that we would, we were going to give it six years of us just being married.

That's what we like told ourselves.

Um, so the plan was after six years, then we would start a family.

Um, And a lot of that was from looking around at the people that we knew and how old they were and what made sense for us.

And, you know, in my mind, I was 24.

So in six years, I was going to be 30.

And that sounded about right.

Would give me a chance to go to school and finish the schooling that I needed to do and then work

for a couple of years before I had

a kid.