It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
May 14, 2026 · 31 min · 16 segments
When a high conflict person says it's all your fault, most reasonable people do something predictable — they start wondering what they did wrong. That instinct toward self-reflection is healthy in…
Megan HunterHostBill EddyHost
So what is that? There's this trap, right? Taking on what isn't yours when it comes to high conflict.
So, you know, you have someone, let's say, that's just high empathy or just a normal person with regular empathy for other people.
Sometimes we can feel a lot of responsibility when we're, we're blamed for something or, you know, criticized about, about something.
Then we get the question mark over our heads and think, "Okay, what did I do? What did I do wrong? I need to change.
I need to take on the responsibility, and I need to try harder." [chuckles] All right? So that's where we are.
Y- you know, some of us are fixers, and we want to resolve all conflict and, and be peaceful, so it can be very confusing.
So what is that? There's this trap, right? Taking on what isn't yours when it comes to high conflict.
So, you know, you have someone, let's say, that's just high empathy or just a normal person with regular empathy for other people.
Sometimes we can feel a lot of responsibility when we're, we're blamed for something or, you know, criticized about, about something.
Then we get the question mark over our heads and think, "Okay, what did I do? What did I do wrong? I need to change.
I need to take on the responsibility, and I need to try harder." [chuckles] All right? So that's where we are.
Y- you know, some of us are fixers, and we want to resolve all conflict and, and be peaceful, so it can be very confusing.
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