54: The Spiritual Truth Behind Why We Have Friendships

The reality is, that all types of relationships from a spiritual, energetic point of view, they are here and we are here for spiritual growth.

So all relationships are here for us to grow spiritually.

All they do is mirror our internal wounds.

So let's take friendships, for example.

I have had, oh my God, so many friendships.

I always used to like latch on to one friend.

This has been a pattern from like when I was super, super small, like in... primary school I had one best friend and then that best friend like went away and then had another just one best friend and then that best friend when I don't know how many I had in primary school like five but I'd always have that one best friend like I know that other people out there could just have the one best friend as well but I'm just talking about like what I experienced and I just latched on to them and and was such a people pleaser.

It was like I really valued, I put value on them so much.

I was like, they want to be my friend and now we're best friends.

I didn't even think to ask myself, do I even want to be friends with this person? That did not come into my mind.

And this has been a pattern literally throughout my whole life.

When I was 13, I had this friend and oh my God, like we just used to smoke weed together.

That was our thing.

And anything that she said, I would literally just do like if she wanted money, if she wanted guys, even errands doing, I would just like do it for her because I thought that's what a good friend was.

You help each other out, but it was never shown back to me ever.

And oh my God, like we used to just have the most toxic, toxic dynamics.

And I have had throughout my whole life, really toxic, toxic friendships where the other person would just push and push and push and do crazier crazier crazier things to me this best friend that I had in my teenage years I remember that she even came to my home and set my bedroom on fire yes, set my bedroom on fire.

My mom came upstairs and was like, what are you actually doing? And I would always stick up for that person.

I was the best friend in my head.

I always thought that that's what you needed to be.

You needed to stick together and be a team, but it was just never, ever shown back to me.

The craziest things used to happen.

I used to smoke weed in my house and just like literally pretend that there was like no smell of weed.

I used to stick up for these friendship groups and these people who did not have my best interests at heart at all.

all and I carried on with having this pattern of toxic friendships and toxic peer groups throughout my whole life like I don't have that now guys but I just wanted to paint a picture and That I always thought that I struggled with friendships and I did.