Self-Imposed Mom Guilt: Where Impossible Standards Come From and How to Set Ones You Can Live With

I mean, this is a little bit of a tangent to what we're going to talk about in this episode, but I will say we've been doing a lot of interviews and everything everyone's saying is how important rest is.

And I think I just need to reframe my rest and put it in my productivity bucket.

I think it's in a different

bucket.

Okay.

This is something else I did.

So in essentialism, they say this about rest, but they also say essentialism is like one of my favorite books.

So in essentialism, something else I say that's extremely important is play.

That is extremely hard for me to like, if I'm going to play, like I'm going to play tennis because I'm going to get better.

Like I'm going to have a purpose of the play.

And so it's like pointless play.

They want you to do pointless play? Yes, they want pointless play.

Tennis doesn't count as play? If you're doing it to like for some ulterior motive of like wanting to get, I mean, it's play, but like you should be doing something that's like not really non-productive play.

To me, I think if I'm taking tennis lessons, that's productive, but it's also play.

But it's, there's just, we need to like allow ourselves to not be productive and that's like really hard.

It's really hard.

I feel like that's really hard for a lot of moms because we're, we don't have a lot of alone time.

We don't have, there are so much time where we're devoting to our kids.

So in that time, like you want to be on for them.

You want to be present with them.

You want to be thinking about them.

You don't want to be trying to like Be adult and be momming, that's too frustrating.

So then that just means like our window to get stuff done is very small and we do have to optimize the 1% throughout the day.

And honestly, and I don't know if this is to my detriment, but I gamify it.

Like I think it is so fun.