Ep#879: 3 Questions to 3X Your Communication Level

Welcome to another episode of I Love Public Speaking.

This is Vishal Sarkar.

For the past 15 years, I've been training, mentoring, guiding top-level leaders to become phenomenal speakers and sharing my message, you know, for example, at companies like Microsoft, IBM, Google, Cisco as keynote speaker, as the leadership coach.

One thing that I found out is a lot of times people miss out on the opportunity to be a great speaker because they just focus on what do i need to do verbally what do i need to do verbally well today i'll give you three questions that if you ask yourself these three questions you will become a better speaker you will become a better connector in situations so check this out the first question is this how can i be more interesting right now how can i be more interesting right now The thing is, you know, many years ago, I think 100 years ago, there was, you know, a communication teacher called Dale Carnegie who said to be don't be interesting, just be interested.

I think.

I think that valuable advice is no longer that valuable today because not only you have to be interested, but you actually have to be interesting.

Like, can you imagine for a second you go to a party and you're interested in others, but you're actually not interesting? Then people will not find anything to be interested in you for.

Makes sense to you? So in today's world, you have to be interested, but more importantly, you have to be interesting.

So the question you should be asking is how can I be more interesting? Something can be okay.

I have to increase my knowledge or I have to know something that people don't know.

I have to smile more.

I have to work on my personality.

You know, I have to work on my voice.

If you're not interesting and if you're just interested in other people, like people will not give you value.

Does that make sense? That's

question number

one.

Question number two is this.

What is this situation teaching me? Many times in public speaking, in presentation, in communication, in virtual setting or even in email, for example, you will find some difficult moments.

Maybe the other party is not agreeing with you.

They are not understanding you.

Instead of being angry about it and trying to pull your hair, what you should be asking yourself is what is this situation teaching me? Maybe the situation is teaching you about clarity in communication.

Maybe the situation is telling you that you have to dress better.

So instead of blaming the messenger, the person, the people, it's time for you to accept the message.

Because if you accept the message, you can become a better speaker.