Sharing the Mental Load

So this podcast is for you if – You have ever heard in your relationship, why do I have to think of everything around here? Or why do I have to manage you? I just want to be a team.

And it's where one partner feels like they're the one that is responsible for checking the groceries or noticing that there's a trash that needs to be taken out or something picked up.

And a lot of times, this can be the heart partner.

Well, and a lot of times, and

just...

You know, from a gender perspective, this can be the female partner in a relationship sometimes, too, because it's almost a gender role.

So some of that who takes on the load of managing everything.

I think some of it's probably rooted in kind of tradition and gender.

And we'll talk about those things.

But carry on.

Yeah.

Well, it's interesting because, yes, sure, it can come from gender.

I know I grew up on a farm and in that traditional rural type environment, my mom was the cook and took care of the groceries, the house, and so forth.

And my dad was the outside guy and took care of the crops and the critters.

Here's what we're talking

about.

And this is, okay, so you talk about

Going to the grocery store.

It's hard to tell if it's heart and head or truly gender, but I think most guys can't go to the grocery store.

Hunter or gatherer? Sorry.

Is that where we're at?

No.

I mean, I just think that I can't remember the last time if I had to go to the grocery store.

I think I'm functional enough to go to the grocery store to buy what I need to eat and But I think this is why, and this is why heads do it for sure, we have a tendency to eat the same thing.

Because I don't think we want to spend that much time with the mental load of figuring out what to eat.