Aug 9, 2026 Ā· 22 min Ā· 9 segments
Why would a woman who genuinely loves God defend a man with a repeated pattern of harmful behavior while distancing herself from the woman who had the courage to speak the truth? In thisā¦
Paula LoweHost
Have you ever noticed something that doesn't seem to make sense? Like a man develops a pattern of hurting women.
Maybe it's constantly seeking validation from women outside of his relationship and has been doing it for years.
Maybe it's a pattern that multiple women have privately acknowledged behind closed doors women say things like i've seen it he did the same thing to me you're not crazy he's been doing this for years but then the moment the moment he's part of the conversation those women changed the women who privately agreed suddenly become quiet and defend him others distance themselves from the woman who finally had the courage to speak the truth Maybe even spoke the truth to where you were also called out as a good woman, good Christian woman, or whatever religion that you place as your priority.
And why is this? Why would a woman who loves Jesus, who prays, who serves in church, who believes in truth, who stands beside a man with a repeated pattern instead of beside the woman who exposed it? Behavioral intelligence asks a different question, not what's wrong with these women, but what beliefs, what fears, and what childhood wounds made that response feel safer than telling the truth, than being healthy, than not enabling him, not feeling sorry for him because he's the one who keeps doing this to himself and he is rounding up women.
And the more women enable him, the more he's going to continue to do it because he can't stop.
Belonging is one of our deepest human needs, right? God created us for relationship.
But if belonging felt uncertain in childhood, just like it did in mine, It can become something we protect at all costs, and we shouldn't be.
We can help them do all these things that will lead them to the person God has called them to be without sin or without that sin.
Children quickly learn what keeps them emotionally safe, right? Some learn don't question authority.
Some learn to keep the peace and others learn if you tell the truth, you'll become the problem, not the person who's actually hurting woman after woman after They're not the problem.
Have you ever noticed something that doesn't seem to make sense? Like a man develops a pattern of hurting women.
Maybe it's constantly seeking validation from women outside of his relationship and has been doing it for years.
Maybe it's a pattern that multiple women have privately acknowledged behind closed doors women say things like i've seen it he did the same thing to me you're not crazy he's been doing this for years but then the moment the moment he's part of the conversation those women changed the women who privately agreed suddenly become quiet and defend him others distance themselves from the woman who finally had the courage to speak the truth Maybe even spoke the truth to where you were also called out as a good woman, good Christian woman, or whatever religion that you place as your priority.
And why is this? Why would a woman who loves Jesus, who prays, who serves in church, who believes in truth, who stands beside a man with a repeated pattern instead of beside the woman who exposed it? Behavioral intelligence asks a different question, not what's wrong with these women, but what beliefs, what fears, and what childhood wounds made that response feel safer than telling the truth, than being healthy, than not enabling him, not feeling sorry for him because he's the one who keeps doing this to himself and he is rounding up women.
And the more women enable him, the more he's going to continue to do it because he can't stop.
Belonging is one of our deepest human needs, right? God created us for relationship.
But if belonging felt uncertain in childhood, just like it did in mine, It can become something we protect at all costs, and we shouldn't be.
We can help them do all these things that will lead them to the person God has called them to be without sin or without that sin.
Children quickly learn what keeps them emotionally safe, right? Some learn don't question authority.
Some learn to keep the peace and others learn if you tell the truth, you'll become the problem, not the person who's actually hurting woman after woman after They're not the problem.
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