Oct 27, 2026 · 40 min · 11 segments
Sometimes, we just want to hold the world accountable for every wrong done to us—every offense spoken, performed, or otherwise. The hard truth is that many men don't realize how badly this affects…
Anthony FlemonsHostJonasPanelist
JT McCrawHost
Because a lot of men don't realize how much of our lives we allow this one thing to control.
And I know some of you are thinking and listening to that description of what I want to talk about today and going, man, I know where this is going.
We're about to have another talk on anger, which are prevalent in men's society and men's culture.
But today I want to talk about something that's really been powerful in my life, like I said, and that's getting past offenses.
I think, man, a lot of the offenses that we accumulate, and some of them are real, but they all brush up against some insecurity that we have, man.
And we run up against a lot of things every day, man, that are actual offenses.
And there's a distinction there, and I want to talk about it, but I just want to talk about getting past offenses.
And the question I want to pose throughout this podcast is, are we dealing with what's happened or are we allowing what's happened to deal with us? Are we dealing with what happened or are we allowing what happened to deal with us? Because daily offenses, man, are going to happen.
You're going to be driving to work and somebody is going to cut you off legitimately, endanger your commute.
You know, someone's going to be somewhere and you're going to be at a ball game or some big event where the lines, you know, it's not a single line anymore.
But like I mentioned earlier, I just feel like that most of those offenses that cut us the deepest are ones that really rub up against some insecurities that we might have.
You know, the kind of offenses I'm talking about, I mean, some happen daily, like the two that I just mentioned, but some happens years ago.
And I've heard it said that offenses and wounds are a lot like having a sore big toe.
You do everything in your will, man, everything in your will house to protect that toe.
If you're in a crowd walking through a group of people, man, you're going to get close to the wall and try to protect your feet.
Because a lot of men don't realize how much of our lives we allow this one thing to control.
And I know some of you are thinking and listening to that description of what I want to talk about today and going, man, I know where this is going.
We're about to have another talk on anger, which are prevalent in men's society and men's culture.
But today I want to talk about something that's really been powerful in my life, like I said, and that's getting past offenses.
I think, man, a lot of the offenses that we accumulate, and some of them are real, but they all brush up against some insecurity that we have, man.
And we run up against a lot of things every day, man, that are actual offenses.
And there's a distinction there, and I want to talk about it, but I just want to talk about getting past offenses.
And the question I want to pose throughout this podcast is, are we dealing with what's happened or are we allowing what's happened to deal with us? Are we dealing with what happened or are we allowing what happened to deal with us? Because daily offenses, man, are going to happen.
You're going to be driving to work and somebody is going to cut you off legitimately, endanger your commute.
You know, someone's going to be somewhere and you're going to be at a ball game or some big event where the lines, you know, it's not a single line anymore.
But like I mentioned earlier, I just feel like that most of those offenses that cut us the deepest are ones that really rub up against some insecurities that we might have.
You know, the kind of offenses I'm talking about, I mean, some happen daily, like the two that I just mentioned, but some happens years ago.
And I've heard it said that offenses and wounds are a lot like having a sore big toe.
You do everything in your will, man, everything in your will house to protect that toe.
If you're in a crowd walking through a group of people, man, you're going to get close to the wall and try to protect your feet.
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