Sep 8, 2026 · 44 min · 14 segments
Most men are surrounded by people who know their name but not their soul — and the difference between being known by many and being known deeply is everything. Stop waiting to be invited into real…
JT McCrawHost
Anthony FlemonsHostJonasPanelist
And, you know, this whole thing about being known, you know, I have some thoughts on being known.
But growing up, man, it's kind of where we learn our lane and which way we're going to, you know, attend to things and what we're going to believe.
And I just remember, man, being taught the exact opposite growing up of being known.
I think if I could put an overarching word on what I was taught about being a man and relationships with men was secrecy.
And, you know, I hate the guy that's always bragging about things they do well.
But at the same time, I don't want to reveal anything that's going wrong because I feel like it's going to get used against me.
I think that men in general are taught pretty quickly, you know, that safety in relationships is about keeping the right secrets.
Yeah, because we don't want people to know, as you say, our blooper reel, because then that reveals something about me that I don't want somebody to know.
Because I actually agree to an extent that, you know, we have this saying, share some, save some.
So there is those moments where I can share just enough and that should be enough for this moment.
And that's a true friend that, as you say, again, I can share my blooper reel and it doesn't change how he thinks about me.
In fact, it probably deepens his respect for me because I'm being honest and truthful and not trying to be impressive.
And, you know, this whole thing about being known, you know, I have some thoughts on being known.
But growing up, man, it's kind of where we learn our lane and which way we're going to, you know, attend to things and what we're going to believe.
And I just remember, man, being taught the exact opposite growing up of being known.
I think if I could put an overarching word on what I was taught about being a man and relationships with men was secrecy.
And, you know, I hate the guy that's always bragging about things they do well.
But at the same time, I don't want to reveal anything that's going wrong because I feel like it's going to get used against me.
I think that men in general are taught pretty quickly, you know, that safety in relationships is about keeping the right secrets.
Yeah, because we don't want people to know, as you say, our blooper reel, because then that reveals something about me that I don't want somebody to know.
Because I actually agree to an extent that, you know, we have this saying, share some, save some.
So there is those moments where I can share just enough and that should be enough for this moment.
And that's a true friend that, as you say, again, I can share my blooper reel and it doesn't change how he thinks about me.
In fact, it probably deepens his respect for me because I'm being honest and truthful and not trying to be impressive.
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